Am I Too Competitive?

[XanderZone]

Me and my best friend play a lot of the same games. It's almost as if we are the same person when it comes to gaming, but lately I'm starting to notice things. Whenever me and my friend play the same game (such as World of Warcraft) I tend to get a little too competitive with him. I try to get more achievements than him, and try to win every duel. I am not a douchebag about it, I just hope he doesn't start taking it that way. I've always been a competitive person but when it comes to my passions such as gaming, I need to better as many people as I can. So far it hasn't affected our friendship, but I don't want it to come to that. I tried to 'not care' about being "behind" but it bugs me to no end. I don't have any self confidence or self-esteem issues as far as I know but if I'm not the better of the two I feel "obsolete". Is having a competitive friend a bad thing?

Thanks for reading, and if you gave an answer/comment.

[Deleted]

It's perfectly normal behavior.

[Deletedaccount1]

i dont know i dont have any friends

[TEHPALLYTANK]

Nope, I've got a couple of friends like that and we end up striving to improve as a result. Hell I've got one friend who is as argumentative as I am, we've argued for an entire raid once (to the annoyance of some of the people in the raid, but fuck 'em since we were the tanks).

[Vizardlorde]

As long as you positively encourage him to keep up with you i would deem it healthy, when you start bragging about how great you are and how others suck you have crossed the line and become an arrogant ass.

[Gemini Sunrise]

You are paying attention to it, so that's a good sign.

Honestly, it'd depend on the person. I really couldn't stand someone trying to one-up me every 5 seconds just so they say they are. But that's just me: your mileage may vary and all that.

[Blueobelisk]

So like. Your friend doesn't know about this MMOC acc and he won't be able to read this, even though you play WoW with him?

[Deleted]

I don't think people has an issue with that, as long as you aren't pointing out that you are better than your friend all the time. Competitiveness is good for games, but arrogance is not. You're ok.

[gaymer77]

I'm going to side against what others have said so far and say that eventhough you justify it with your logic that its just to better yourself and you don't want to be "the douchebag", you might already be that in his eyes if you bring up your accomplishments to him. If you see that your friendship starts taking small breaks or whatever you want to call them, that might be the reason why. It sounds to me like you are too competitive and should chill out some.

[Jaroko]

Me and my best friend play a lot of the same games. It's almost as if we are the same person when it comes to gaming, but lately I'm starting to notice things. Whenever me and my friend play the same game (such as World of Warcraft) I tend to get a little too competitive with him. I try to get more achievements than him, and try to win every duel. I am not a douchebag about it, I just hope he doesn't start taking it that way. I've always been a competitive person but when it comes to my passions such as gaming, I need to better as many people as I can. So far it hasn't affected our friendship, but I don't want it to come to that. I tried to 'not care' about being "behind" but it bugs me to no end. I don't have any self confidence or self-esteem issues as far as I know but if I'm not the better of the two I feel "obsolete". Is having a competitive friend a bad thing?

Thanks for reading, and if you gave an answer/comment.

Used to be the same as you about 5 years ago. Don't lose yourself to gaming. If your already starting to feel like your " Behind " or as you said yourself " I need to better as many people as I can." Why is this important? Your never going to be 1st its the sad truth. Mabye you just want to prove that your a cut above the common rabble. Nothing wrong with that but you don't need to lose yourself in doing so. Don't forget to be happy for the people with more than you.

Did you know that most of the best gamers in the world are hidden gems? They don't make youtube videos or are a part of Razer. they don't sell gold guides or brag around. I for 1 have been called such a gamer. 96% on Achievement's, Every farmable mount gotten. The gold cap on 2 toons and half way on my 3rd. etc. I have gone a lot of stuff on WoW my point is you don't have to prove anything to anybody. find out what you want yourself and shoot.

After I "gave up" on trying to be tops I became such a better gamer. I play for myself and do what I want. Nobody tell me if I am behind or not. You should try the same thing buddy! =)

[grandpab]

I was like that a bit, but then so were a lot of the people I played with. Now that I don't even have enough time in a day to keep up with most gamers I'm a lot more lax.

[OzoAndIndi]

Well, I don't think it's abnormal to want to be best, although always have to be outshined by a competitive friend could get old after a while. Although if your friend doesn't bother trying to outdo you back then maybe he doesn't care all that much... I just would avoid rubbing it in all the time or anything like that.

[Deleted]

Just don't point attention to the fact that you have more achievements etc than him, that would make you sounds like a dick

[vizzle]

So like. Your friend doesn't know about this MMOC acc and he won't be able to read this, even though you play WoW with him?

You act like this is the first time someone's made a thread about WoW friends.

[Duronos]

Well it seems you are just competitive vs the common gamers... Look if you're going to be competitive then aim higher than that.

[Jackmoves]

As long as you don't start throwing things around when he kicks your ass in something lol. One of my best friends is a very sore "loser", it doesn't really bother me, I think it's kind of funny tbh and it doesn't last for more then a few minutes. If you go around thinking about it then I think it might become a problem.