I have a girl problem please help

[heyheyheyx]

So ive been with this girl for a while we were never "official" but we kissed and acted as a couple she said she wanted to be friends then two weeks later she said it was because she wanted us to be together by now. i said that i was sorry for waiting i told her i wanted to make her mine, and that i could make her happy. she hugged me and looked at me like before we kiss, and blushed. She said oh my gosh matt and smiled. but then she said she needed time. So i said take your time but i want to take you out on a date soon. So what are my chances out of curiosity. Should i go no contact on her, and wait. If i go nc what are the chances she will come back to me. Or should i show her that she still is attracted to me by hanging out with her and kissing her and making her remember how it used to be? also is she making me wait because i made her wait and she just wants to be together laterIm not going to invest any excess time into this my head is in the right place, but i just want to be with her and in all of these scenarios i want to know my chances, be blunt thannks.

[Deleted]

What is this? A dating forum for the socially crippled 15 year old's?

Post it on yahoo or something... i don't know, but i've not got a clue about this.


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[heyheyheyx]

socially crippled is you im fine ive got a good life ahead of me i just want some advice if you dont want to help then dont post.

[Natiry427]

So ive been with this girl for a while we were never "official" but we kissed and acted as a couple she said she wanted to be friends then two weeks later she said it was because she wanted us to be together by now. i said that i was sorry for waiting i told her i wanted to make her mine, and that i could make her happy. she hugged me and looked at me like before we kiss, and blushed. She said oh my gosh matt and smiled. but then she said she needed time. So i said take your time but i want to take you out on a date soon. So what are my chances out of curiosity. Should i go no contact on her, and wait. If i go nc what are the chances she will come back to me. Or should i show her that she still is attracted to me by hanging out with her and kissing her and making her remember how it used to be? also is she making me wait because i made her wait and she just wants to be together laterIm not going to invest any excess time into this my head is in the right place, but i just want to be with her and in all of these scenarios i want to know my chances, be blunt thannks.

I've been guilty of doing this several times. I can't speak on behalf of this girl, but for me I needed time because I had a crush on another boy and I wanted to see if he would ask me out first. It was a scumbag thing at the time, but I was 15. Chances are, she's weighing her options as well, although I can't confirm that.

I've always been of the opinion that you should be with someone that is just as excited to be with you as you are with them. When my now fiance told me he liked me 2 years ago after we'd been friends for a few months, I was giddy! I couldn't control myself I was so excited that I jumped and kissed him immediately <3. That's what I would hope for everyone. If someone is interested, you'll know immediately.

However, I do acknowledge that a lot of people (especially girls) are apprehensive towards relationships for other reasons (family pressure, society, etc.). This could be one of those possibilities, so I don't know. In your case, I would say wait and see what she says, but if it happens to be a "no", don't linger over it. Find someone who loves you wiht the passion you love them.

[Tradewind]

be blunt thannks.

Since you gave us permission. This forum isn't some teenage Dear Abby column. Man the fuck up or maybe try listening to what she's saying. Even though most teenage girls are too goddamn dumb to begin with.

Ah fuck it, what do I even care, my head hurts and I didn't even read most of it because it's so terrible.

[KCguy]

Says she needs time, so give it to her. Don't make a mountain out of a mole. Simple.

[pucGG]

FINALLY ONE THAT ISN'T ALREADY A LOST CAUSE.

OP the time is RIGHT. INVITE HER OUR TO EAAAAAT. It's a surefire thing! Take her out somewhere and fucking eat with her, talk to her. She's begging for something romantic to happen.
When she says "I need time" she means it's about damn time you do something other that smooching her lips casually.

[Wyrt]

Get some midol.

[Mil Mascaras]

socially crippled is you im fine ive got a good life ahead of me i just want some advice if ...

Ah, to be young and dumb...

[DrStiglit]

If i go nc what are the chances she will come back to me.

What does this mean?

Edit: Oh, I see it from the previous sentence... Sorry, this was hard to read..

OT:

Grab her by the waist and pull her into you tight.. Stare intensely into her eyes and say; "every minute you spend thinking about it is a minute you...."

Damnit, I can't be cheesy.. Just tell her to f off and bang her mom.

[Kantalope]

Ah, to be young and dumb...

QFMFT

Also, someone mentioned 15 year olds? This drivel appears to be written by a 9 year old.

[ScrappyMuffy]

Already been said, but she's probably being so back & forth because she's weighing her options and not sure which way to go. Girls do that. She wants to be with somebody but she doesn't want to piss somebody else off (or lose them) in the process, hence the hesitation.

So hang out with her. Take her to dinner. And JUST BE YOURSELF. Overthinking how you need to act is what always fucks things up, no matter who you are. Just treat her like your friend, and let things develop.

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QFMFT

Also, someone mentioned 15 year olds? This drivel appears to be written by a 9 year old.

Which makes you both a lot tougher, tearing apart 9-15 year olds on the internet.

If you have issues with a kid having issues, then you're not exactly an adult either.

[Getsomeofthis]

She said oh my gosh matt and smiled. but then she said she needed time. So i said take your time but i want to take you out on a date soon. So what are my chances out of curiosity.

It can never work. Let it go and find some one who isn't going to make you wait. Looks like you are going to come in second anyway in this.

[DrStiglit]

Which makes you both a lot tougher, tearing apart 9-15 year olds on the internet.

If you have issues with a kid having issues, then you're not exactly an adult either.

He said be blunt.. They are proving constructive criticism.. Just, not on the actual problem the OP presented..

[Zetsumei]

So ive been with this girl for a while we were never "official" but we kissed and acted as a couple she said she wanted to be friends then two weeks later she said it was because she wanted us to be together by now. i said that i was sorry for waiting i told her i wanted to make her mine, and that i could make her happy. she hugged me and looked at me like before we kiss, and blushed. She said oh my gosh matt and smiled. but then she said she needed time. So i said take your time but i want to take you out on a date soon. So what are my chances out of curiosity. Should i go no contact on her, and wait. If i go nc what are the chances she will come back to me. Or should i show her that she still is attracted to me by hanging out with her and kissing her and making her remember how it used to be? also is she making me wait because i made her wait and she just wants to be together laterIm not going to invest any excess time into this my head is in the right place, but i just want to be with her and in all of these scenarios i want to know my chances, be blunt thannks.

Take her to the McDonalds and buy her a milkshake. Hold her hands when you ride home on your bikes. Kiss her when you drop her of at her house.

[Zylos]

Which makes you both a lot tougher, tearing apart 9-15 year olds on the internet.

If you have issues with a kid having issues, then you're not exactly an adult either.

The kid said "be blunt" and that's all this is. This forum is a terrible place to post these questions and yet tons of them seem to crop up. High school kids asking silly immature questions about relationships that don't matter outside getting some ass before college.

[Charmanderp]

Here is some advice. Don't worry about it too much, highschool girls are like Hemorrhoids. A pain is the ass

[Payday]

What ever happened to figuring this kind of shit out on your own? Do what you think is best. Apply your ideas. We have no idea how to give you proper advice because we aren't there. I really doubt this girl is interested in what we think. Different things work for different people, you need to figure out what works for you. Sometimes you can do everything right and it will still end in disaster. Sometimes you can be a total doucher and she will worship the ground you walk on. It's not a science.

Also, you are at a point in your life when none of this shit matters. If statistics are any indication, you will hug and kiss and share smiles with many other girls in the years to come. Every new girl that comes along will take you one step farther away from the girl you are talking about now, until eventually all you have left is the knowledge and tools you have acquired to use when it actually does matter. It sounds like you are off to a decent start - don't blow it.

[Sneakybear]

If you're having girl problems I feel bad for you son............................ yada yada, take her out to a place to eat! (punk)

[Belloc]

Dude, it's obvious that she's cheating on you. Kick her to the curb!