Alright, since you guys didn't figure it out after the first guy got infracted for it, we don't genderbash around here, you aren't being cute or funny, you're being unconstructive and kind of an asshole.
Closing this thread, if the OP wants to reopen the issue in the "Help my DPS" thread which can be found here feel free and I actually strongly encourage you to do so, so that your guildie can get the help that she needs.