Originally Posted by
feeber
Im in a longterm relationship, and for about a year im having serious problems with my boyfriend - generally we fight over difference in opinions.
Idk why we keep this running, but for me its because i still love him i guess. But i feel treated by him as somebody... dumber than he is? Our fights happen when i disagree with him over something, and i seriously dont remember a single moment i would win an argument which didnt involve material facts. I managed to sometimes pull myself up when i simply showed him an evidence that im right in wikipedia or anywhere, but in fights regarding something what we both feel different about, i can never make him accept me.
He thinks his way of seeing things is the only right and sesible way, he doesnt care to look at things my way. The situation atm is that he is working and im studing, getting money from my parents and brother. Cus of what i guess he thinks he is more 'mature' than me and i should accept the way he sees things each freaking time? I do take corrections and analise most of the cases, but what made me create this thread was situation yday:
if too long-here is the actual problem:
He had to work at new years eve. Exactly at the night from 31.12 to 1.01 he had a nightshift, but he could use internet and play meanwhile most of the time he was at work. To not make him feel bad, i also stayed at home with my parents, made them food and spent the time with them and him on the other side, in wow.
We were doing some battlegrounds (i honestly stepped into deepwind gorge for my like 10th time, had no idea how the points in there work) the thing is, he was trying to get achievement for his friend from the game, the one with capturing 4 carts what requires a bit longer fight. Having no idea what im really doing, i went for the opposite faction cart carrier and contributed in his kill. Ofc later on i got busted, the friend was sad but not angry, however my boyfriend was totally damaged. When he explained me what the cart is about, i apologized and promised to not fail this again, he kept 'being frustrated' as he said, cus it was one of 20 tires to get that achievement, and instad of telling me once that i did bad- he told me that like 5-10 times. I got simply angry cus how many times can i hear that im dumb, that i have no imagination, and i cant figure out by myelf the stealing/getting back thing with gold there (for me it was simply resources like in other bgs...) and simply exited wow. Later on, he refused to apologize for attacking me cus it was me who ruined the evening, acted like child by leaving the game after saying i dont want to intterupt his pro ass in achieving stuff in the game.
Maybe i overreacted, but it was actually second time the same day he did similar thing to me. ealier he didnt agree to my theory about some boss mechanics and why did we wipe, creating his own of also low chance to be correct but when i said it could be both, he just kept being sarcastic that i 'came up with some unreasonable shit'.
Really, how to make that ass finally take me serious? I told him i will say sorry for leaving if i hear sorry for his comments. So far, no response, he is not doing anything imporant, i see him playing again.
I heard already that best option would be breaking up so he can open his eyes, but 1) i dont really want to do that, cus why hurt somebody i was in repationship for 6 years this much, 2) atm we share the same flat in city im studing at - it would be extreme pain to now move out, and im there generally on my own, having exams soon and simply not being able to do much alone.
How to stop him from thinking he is some kind of genius, just because he has some shit job? im a medicine student, and actually the amount of work i do can be easly compared to what he does, with just a difference of me sitting in flat and him sitting at work.