i'm in love with a married woman

[aggs]

lol @ all the people saying it's wrong to date her.. you realize if both have feelings for each other and the woman no longer loves her husband there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that? marriage doesn't mean you have to stay with your husband til you die, people change, people's feelings change, get real guys.

Those silly words you exchange should mean something if you bother to go that route. Like I said before though marriage in this country has a pretty high failure rate, but there really is no reason to not just get a divorce first right?

[ripponesan]

marriage doesn't mean you have to stay with your husband til you die

Well in fact it does EXACTLY mean that, at least if you marry in front of a Christian priest.

[Ossandran]

lol @ all the people saying it's wrong to date her.. you realize if both have feelings for each other and the woman no longer loves her husband there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that? marriage doesn't mean you have to stay with your husband til you die, people change, people's feelings change, get real guys.

I'm sorry, but I do believe "till death do us part" is said somewhere in a wedding, just saying.

[aggs]

I know it is okay to be wrong. I am merely of the opinion that you are. :P
No, seriously though... I am. I think people's romantic views on the whole 'love' thing are clouding people's judgement on what is actually going on, and I think that, in cases like this, it's better to realize that it's just a mechanic you can (and should, in this particular case) ignore than it is to cause harm to yourself and others because you didn't think things through.

Lust and love are far different. A pheromone triggered response is not love lol. I am not saying love isn't a mechanical response as you put it, it is just not from pheromones as you put it.

[Demoncrash]

i know for a fact that she has feelings for me too despite her being married.

should i tell her how i feel or remain silent?

I personally believe in karma. Don't expect to have a stable relationship if you play an active part in ruining someone else's.

Also 99% of the time, this kind of "love" is just lust.

[Pull My Finger]

I'm sorry, but I do believe "till death do us part" is said somewhere in a wedding, just saying.

It's a good thing to live by if you're, like, 450 years old.

[Mosotti]

There's this channel I watch a lot recently, called Investigation Discovery. Plenty of idiots that were shot by angry husbands in those shows. So go ahead, I'd like to see the story of your life (and death)

[ripponesan]

It's a good thing to live by if you're, like, 450 years old.

By this Argumentation it would be a good Thing to live by
"You shall not steal" if you are like 2000 years old. So glad we are over this...

What the fuck is wrong with you guys? Just because some "rule" is old, doesnt mean we can scrap it.

[Buttfear]

I wonder if the OP would trust this women if she left her husband for him...

[Stir]

Lust and love are far different. A pheromone triggered response is not love lol. I am not saying love isn't a mechanical response as you put it, it is just not from pheromones as you put it.

And that is where we (slightly) disagree. I agree that lust and love are, indeed, different responses. But 'being in love' is that tingly feeling that is mainly to do with the brain's response to pheromones. I understand why you think and feel the way you do; I just don't agree from a biological perspective.

[aggs]

So if you have any understanding of how pheromones are supposed to work you would only love your s/o when they were around to give off that chemical...

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By this Argumentation it would be a good Thing to live by
"You shall not steal" if you are like 2000 years old. So glad we are over this...

What the fuck is wrong with you guys? Just because some "rule" is old, doesnt mean we can scrap it.

Hey let's go out and kill every asshole on this board. The rule of killing is ancient so, let's scrap that too.

/grabs pitchfork with lube on it

[Amnasty]

Based on your thoughts, I'm given the impression that you suffer from a very severe case of delusions of grandeur.
You're choosing happiness over sorrow, but you happily doom others to feel sorrow because of you.
This alone makes you an arrogant, selfish piece of shit.

Keep your nose and and keep on chastising... if I'm all the above you must be quite similar, you might be on a different corner but we seem to be cut from the same cloth.

[Deleted]

Guys don't bother. We''ve come to the conclusion. Assholes will always be assholes. It's their kind of religion. They're assholes BECAUSE they reason in the way they do. There's no changing that. It's like religion. You can't convince them that they're in the wrong. Let them go around and fucking destroy other peoples lives because they feel entitled to happiness whilst destroying just that, for someone else. Please, abandon ship. This shit is ridiculous. It's not even a debate. They're going to think it's alright, we're going to think it's not. Walk away with dignity, walk away knowing you're the better man.

[Deleted]

Just leave her be. It'll pass, Ron. Just like that one time you wanted to become a pornstar. :P

[Deleted]

You became an asshole 8 years ago. You ARE your back.

I'm sure that sounded better in your head than it reads here, and for the record I've always been somewhat of an asshole.

I do like how in your head this is all on me though, as if all I had to do was smile and she fell at my feet. Don't get me wrong, I am great but I'm not that great.

In my experience if someone / anyone leaves someone (married or not) it means something wasn't right, if you seem to think everything was fine, then chances are that problem was you.

For me the husband killed the marriage long before I turned up, but in your world is it better for two people to be miserable?

If being with me was the push my girlfriend needed to leave and divorce her husband then it was only a good thing, for both of them and me.

Mooboy, these kind of women have no clue what a true relationship is, they jump from man to man climbing the steps to "better".

Your next, she's always looking for something better and when she finds another "step", bye bye..

Project a little more please.

[Wildtree]

You could change your name from Ron Burgundy to Ron Jeremey....

But then, he wouldn't make such silly threads.
Yet, that' kind of my hope with it...

[Amnasty]

Guys don't bother. We''ve come to the conclusion. Assholes will always be assholes. It's their kind of religion. They're assholes BECAUSE they reason in the way they do. There's no changing that. It's like religion. You can't convince them that they're in the wrong. Let them go around and fucking destroy other peoples lives because they feel entitled to happiness whilst destroying just that, for someone else. Please, abandon ship. This shit is ridiculous. It's not even a debate. They're going to think it's alright, we're going to think it's not. Walk away with dignity, walk away knowing you're the better man.

Haha we are for SURE, cut from the same cloth....closer then you think.

You keep your nose high like I do.

God damn if it Sha were real...you'd have one ripping threw your asshole right now.

[Deleted]

Keep your nose and and keep on chastising... if I'm all the above you must be quite similar, you might be on a different corner but we seem to be cut from the same cloth.

I wouldn't want to live if I was cut from the same cloth as you. I value other peoples feelings. I value them so much that I abort any mission I have if it means suckerpunching someone else in the go-nads. You obviously don't. You value yourself over everybody else. Fuck you with the same cloth analogy. We don't share shit except for being human, but if this "Soul" thing people keep talking about exists, I got one, you don't.

Seriously, how the fuck do you justify screwing someone over because you think you're worth to feel something and they're not? Let them repair what they've got, or let them grow apart and get a divorce. But don't step over something that can heal. It makes you a bad person. An arrogant, fucking, bad person. I don't care how you see it. Just as a stupid person wouldn't realise he/she is stupid, an asshole wouldn't notice either. It's pointless arguing with you.

We're not cut from the same cloth. My cloth was clean, yours had been used.

[Stir]

So if you have any understanding of how pheromones are supposed to work you would only love your s/o when they were around to give off that chemical...

That's not how the brain works, however. Neural pathways, memory, inprinting and all that stuff... Those are factors that are at work, here.
Then there's also obsession to consider.

The fact that it is the brain's response to chemicals does not mean the brain immediately stops working when the chemicals are no longer present. And the more exposure (and indulgence) you allow, the greater the brain's response becomes. However, over time, exposure may no longer trigger the effect if the brain is not indulging in said exposure.