What's wrong with me?

[Deleted]

I've recently been looking through my Facebook and have noticed that loads of my friends have been getting into relationships and it has been playing on my mind a bit, I'm the only one of my friends that haven't had a serious relationship at the age of 23.
I've been trying to think what what my flaws are but i don't see anything major that would put girls off...
I'm 5ft 10" dark hair, brown eyes and a strong build. I'm not a shy person at all, I'm talkative and considered the "joker" among my friends.
I do admit i spend alot of time gaming but i still have a decent social life.

What do you guys think?

[Aeluron Lightsong]

Nothing wrong. You just need to go out in the world a bit more like me.


._. I'm at a similar age related to you. So I know the feeling.

[Deleted]

I suppose, but i do go out most weekends.
Perhaps i should turn into a douchebag, girls seem to like that for some reason...

[Constraint]

Bad idea. What kinda circles do you associate with? Rich, poor, average, street etc? Do you try to strike it off with someone, or do you just hope for the best, or wait for them to make the first move?

[Feel The Power]

Perhaps i should turn into a douchebag, girls seem to like that for some reason...

It's quite a shame that this is true a lot of the time, but those girls are usually also pieces of crap and only good for screwing a few times. I'm 34 now, and I've come to realize that looking for a girlfriend doesn't usually work, more times than not it is just something that happens pretty much out of nowhere. You're only 23, don't let it bother you too much right now, you have so much time to have a relationship.

[OneSent]

I don't know if this is a serious post or not, but if it is, I suppose I could offer you some advice: stop using Facebook as a means to compare where you should be in life.

Each second you spend sifting through people's Facebook accounts and wondering why everyone else is in a serious relationship when you're not is absolutely going to play on your mind.

You'll get discouraged and start thinking there's something wrong with you (which has already started to happen) or you'll get impatient and make poor decisions (like turning into a douchebag to get girls).

You're 23 years old bro, tomorrow isn't promised to any of us, but life is not passing you by if you're living it. Put yourself into more scenarios and situations where you have a higher chance to meet someone and it'll happen. But only do it because you want to; don't let other people's lives influence your own.

And for fuck's sake, don't pull the douchebag card. That only works on shallow girls. Trust me, a serious relationship will be easier to maintain if you be yourself from the beginning.

[Fortera]

It's chemical. Maybe your chems is weak.

[drwelfare]

In my case I am a loser and no woman would want anything to do with me unless I was paying her, it is also due to my life being a loss.

Maybe you do not seem the type that would support some womans habits or addictions so they do not seek you out.

[Tastyfish]

Well there is a story here about not being so concerned about what other folks have or are doing...
Don't be a dick, Don't be arrogant, tends to be the 2 biggest deal breakers for normal folks.

[Karnige]

dude your 23 who cares! relax and enjoy your youth. it'll come naturally

[Drobu]

Live your life the way it makes sense to you.

[drwelfare]

dude your 23 who cares! relax and enjoy your youth. it'll come naturally

And 8-10 years later you are there realizing that your life is gone, your body in failing, and your good days are behind you.

[Mongoose19]

Girls can easly sense when something is off about a guy. Confidence can counter it but if you don't have it then just play the "I don't care game". Don't be a try-hard basicly but be passionate about something, can be anything, if they notice it you will have big chance. Can be sport, music, photography, playing games might be risky hehe.

If you are passionate about something and you can talk about it, it resonates onto other people. They think "oh this man is interesting". It goes both for love and finding friends. Although finding a girl that will turned be on by your video game passion might be bit harder than if you played guitar.

[Deleted]

Bad idea. What kinda circles do you associate with? Rich, poor, average, street etc? Do you try to strike it off with someone, or do you just hope for the best, or wait for them to make the first move?

I come from a fairly fairly wealthy background but i'm not the sort of person to flaunt it, I have no problem with making the first move, unless they are surrounded by 50 other people lol

[Deleted]

Girls can easly sense when something is off about a guy. Confidence can counter it but if you don't have it then just play the "I don't care game". Don't be a try-hard basicly but be passionate about something, can be anything, if they notice it you will have big chance. Can be sport, music, photography, playing games might be risky hehe.

If you are passionate about something and you can talk about it, it resonates onto other people. They think "oh this man is interesting". It goes both for love and finding friends. Although finding a girl that will turned be on by your video game passion might be bit harder than if you played guitar.

My passions are bodybuilding and gaming hahaha i think i might need to expand.

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Well I am the only one of my friends in one ;_;

Feel free to set me up with any single ladies :P

[Mongoose19]

My passions are bodybuilding and gaming hahaha i think i might need to expand.

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Feel free to set me up with any single ladies :P

Find a sport chick. I've got a friend whose passions are also only body building and gaming. Guess what, he found his girlfriend at the gym, she was some aerobics instructor I think.

[Dragon2K]

And 8-10 years later you are there realizing that your life is gone, your body in failing, and your good days are behind you.

So better to have relaxed and enjoyed it while it lasts?

Most people don't get lasting relationships from 'going out'. Try to find someone who shares common interests with you.

And don't worry about something being wrong... I had my first long (and current) relationship at 23 with someone I would've never 'gone for' if I met them while going out or whatever... a classmate :3


As for the 'turn into a douchebag' remark, it reminded me of this:
http://xkcd.com/513/
Oh, and also:
https://xkcd.com/1325/

Please try not to get the 'Nice Guy' Syndrome.

[Deleted]

Find a sport chick. I've got a friend whose passions are also only body building and gaming. Guess what, he found his girlfriend at the gym, she was some aerobics instructor I think.

Sounds crazy but it might just work

[Souflikar]

I suppose, but i do go out most weekends.
Perhaps i should turn into a douchebag, girls seem to like that for some reason...

Nah, don't douche it up, be yourself. Perhaps women are afraid to approach you. If you're ready, let them know you are approachable and available.

[Feral Camel]

I'm 29 (nearly 30) and always been single, so my advice my be kind of redundant.

Travel. Backpack around Europe or America. Or if you don't like traveling alone join a tour group and meet people.