First, I would like to say that what I'm about to say is rather hard for me to type and put into words, but I'll do my best. I'm asking you guys MMO-C not necessarily what I should do, but rather what you would do, or what you have done if you've been in my shoes.
About 3 years ago I met the women I was going to marry, and I decided that it was time to get my life back together. I decided to drop my job at the family business in order to pursue a career that I could grow in. I dropped all non essential aspects from my life (I.E Video Games, which was a HUGE part of my life) almost cold turkey. I moved out of my parents got my own place, and essentially just grew up. I decided the best option for me was to join the NAVY. The economy is kinda garbage, and I didn't exactly have any skills that could get me a decent paying job that I now needed to support my new life.
Fast Forward now 3 years to 2014. I am 22 now, I have a nice 3 bedroom house, 2 cars, working on my college degree to be a high school history teacher, and have a very successful career for my family in the NAVY. We have been married 2 years now, and everything is fantastic. Well almost everything. I've come to a wall in my life where I feel this empty void. My wife is not very accepting of video games, and therefore doesn't really support when I decide to play casually with friends. Now, before anyone says "If she controls what you do leave if you're not happy, etc." I want to make a point that she knew me when I played WoW like a second job raiding 5 - 6 hours a night 4 - 5 nights a week. I can see where she may think I will go back to those habits.
Now, here's my dilemma. I want to casually play games again, no where near what I did before. I don't even have the time to do so. I'm talking maybe an hour a night with maybe slightly more time on the weekends. My wife has a very blunt, very concrete NO every time I bring up the subject. Has anyone else been in the same situation with me? Did you approach your spouse? How did it go? What did you say/do? I'm very curious. I'd like for my wife to join me as well since it can be used for bonding when I am deployed and half a world separates us.
I appreciate anyone who answers. Please, no insults towards my wife since it's very hard to put into words exactly what goes on.