I'm still waiting to remember.
Aaaaay- i'm sad now .
2 months is nothing though really, especially in this context OP; Is it love you're really feeling, or lust?
(No judgement here)
This thread got weird.
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Mountains rise in the distance stalwart as the stars, fading forever.
Roads ever weaving, soul ever seeking the hunter's mark.
Things are getting "extremely serious" and the most important part of your relationship is the sex? 18 year olds and 30 year olds implicitly have different expectations and understandings about relationship. I'm not saying it can't work out, I know several couples with a wide age gap like yours (of course the younger of the partners was always at least 22-23). Make sure you both have the same understanding of what "extremely serious" means. Don't infer or imply anything. See what she thinks about meeting your parents.
"Mom, I'm crazy about this woman I've been seeing. Just so you know, she's 30 and has a 9 year old kid".
By the way, I've seen a rule-of-thumb formula to measure how squicky an age gap is. If you're younger than X/2+7 (where your partner is X years old), or vice versa, you will raise some eyebrows.
Single moms tend to have issues keeping a relationship. So im guessing if they have something good they will try and keep it. Also you should consider if you are having children of your own and how old you want to be when that happens. Say you want to have a child at 25 she will be 37 and thats pretty old to be getting pregnant again.
It is set up for failure but your only 18 so you have the benefit of time not her. But to answer your question it wont make any difference how you tell your mum. She will either approve or disapprove and the way you deliver the news wont change the outcome.
I'm just gonna throw this out there
You are closer in age to the daughter than you are to the mom
Really has nothing to do with it. People are people. Age shouldn't matter if two people enjoy being together.
I'd be more concerned about your relationship with your family if you have to ask online for advice about telling your mom something so simple. You're a grown man, you don't need her approval. She must not love you very much if she ends up making a big deal over it.
Last edited by Ghostpanther; 2014-05-27 at 01:44 AM.
It's simple, to be honest.
Introduce her normally and honestly, as you would do with any girl of regular age that you really like.
Don't mention anything out of the ordinary.
Would you mention her age if she was your age?
Would you mention her virginity or sexual orientation?
In a nutshell, don't be awkward or apologetic, don't say more than you would normally, and show that you are on HER side.
You're not on trial.
She's not on trial.
When you make a big deal out of something simple, you get the results you fear.
Last edited by Nurvus; 2014-05-27 at 01:51 AM.
Why did you create a new thread? Use the search function and post in existing threads!
Why did you necro a thread?
Just come out and say it, be direct. That being said, I fail to see why any 30 something would have anything in common with an 18 year old. Hell, I am in my last year in my 20's, and I view most 18 and even 20 year olds as annoying kids. Get off my lawn and such.