asking someone out on a date you have no chance with ?

[Wipeout]

have you or (wish'd you had) ever asked a girl/guy out on a date even though you knew you had no chance with if so how well did it go for you ?


edit: forgot to add 3rd poll choice for "never" & cant seem to edit the poll

[Deleted]

When i was 9 i asked a girl out to a dance, got rejected, hard.

Fuck you Evie.

Secondary was better, the girl was crazy though.

[Endus]

Just ask her out. All she can say is "no". And when they say "no", you can move on with your life.

This only becomes an issue when you can't muster up the cajones to ask them out, and stew over it, building your attraction up into this contorted, one-sided obsession.

[THE Bigzoman]

I was asked out by a girl that I thought I never had a chance with.

Turns out she was crushing on me well before I noticed her.

Does that count?

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Just ask her out. All she can say is "no". And when they say "no", you can move on with your life.

This only becomes an issue when you can't muster up the cajones to ask them out, and stew over it, building your attraction up into this contorted, one-sided obsession.

This kind of ties in with the general fear of failure people have though. I don't think simply saying "grow a pair" is addressing the core of it.

[Wipeout]

I was asked out by a girl that I thought I never had a chance with.

Turns out she was crushing on me well before I noticed her.

Does that count?

course it does, how well did it turn out for you after you's went on a date ? lol

[Sliske]

When i was 15 i asked an 18 year old drop dead gorgeous woman who was a foot taller than me, out. Its 4 years later and we're still together. So yeah, i have :O

I honestly didn't think I had a chance with her, and not sure why i asked. I hadn't really had a 'GF' before then (just those dumb 1-3 week things you have in school) so randomly out of the blue getting her was and still is pretty crazy imo

[Tyrgannus]

The only reason you have no chance is that you believe you have no chance. This is FAR more true than you probably think.

Not only is confidence sexy, but you (probably) don't know her if you're saying you have no chance. You don't know what is and isn't important to her and what she is or isn't in to. Believe it or not, she might be sick and tired of six pack jocks being the only guys to muster the courage to ask her out. You can be that confident diversity!


I totally believe this because it just plain works. If I like someone, they are single, I'm single, and there isn't weird restrictions (moving soon, boss's daughter, etc), I ask them out. Do I get turned down a fair amount? Absolutely, but you know what? I also go out with interesting and beautiful women because I'm not afraid. Everyone I've been in a relationship in has been, to my subjective opinion and taste, drop dead gorgeous. Am I shallow? Probably, but unfortunately it's common (especially when you realize "shallow" is a word describing sub conscience tendencies to gravitate towards people that you deem fertile with good genes).

Go for it! You can't lose what you never had and you'll never have unless you try.

[Drusin]

Yeah go for it bro!

[Tyrgannus]

Also, I refuse to do the poll as is because it is a case by case basis as I mentioned. I've been rejected flat out and I've had it lead to multi-year awesome relationships. I would check the non existent "Both" option.

[Wipeout]

Also, I refuse to do the poll as is because it is a case by case basis as I mentioned. I've been rejected flat out and I've had it lead to multi-year awesome relationships. I would check the non existent "Both" option.

yea i didnt fill out all the poll options before submitting it, i messed it up lol

[theostrichsays]

I did, she said no.
I matured physically and years later she tried to come onto me. Sh had a brood of kids by then, and I wasn't interested.
Op just go for it if there is someone. If they say no, go on with life there are plenty of other single people.

[Endus]

This kind of ties in with the general fear of failure people have though. I don't think simply saying "grow a pair" is addressing the core of it.

I'm not saying it's easy, but it's a necessary life skill. It's also the best way to maximize your chances. Just asking them out without waffling and hesitating demonstrates confidence, as does being totally open to them saying "no". And that confidence is itself an attractive quality. If you want the best shot, ask them out early on, when you've decided you'd like to go out with them. Stewing on it means that you have a chance of loss when you get around to it, meaning you're stressed and worried, and that comes through, making you look less confident and thus less attractive.

Douchebags mistake this principle for "be a jerk to women", but it isn't about being rude. It's just about having the guts to take the first step, with confidence. If you're going to feel crestfallen when she says "no thanks", you've already waited too long.

[Deleted]

No such thing as someone I have no chance with, I am average at best when it comes to looks but my confidence oozes out so much my feet get wet.

[Deleted]

Everyone has a chance with Anyone else. No such thing as no chance with *that person*

[Deleted]

my confidence oozes out so much my feet get wet.

Uh-huh. "Confidence".

I have never encountered this. Usually I'm beating people off left and right, obviously.

I once received a written death threat from a girl I refused to go out with. Since I'm a massive arsehole, I read it out infront of the class to add to her shame.

If you go in with your head hung low, you're preparing to fail. Be cool, confident and expect a yes and most of the time she'll at least give you a chance. Don't assume automatically that you have no chance.

Don't take it hard if you get rejected either; nothing less cool, or more of a turnoff, than some bitch who goes berserk because you're not into her (same for guys who call a girl a cunt for not wanting him in her bed).

[apepi]

No such thing as someone I have no chance with, I am average at best when it comes to looks but my confidence oozes out so much my feet get wet.

Rich's Creamy Goo!


But anyways you have no chance if you don't ask her.

[Deleted]

You have already failed, if you think in this way. It is all about self-confidence.

She was the rich girl with impressive carreer(way above the average)and really pretty. Girls like these are already surrounded by powerful males. I was the poor student, living in a basement and was 26-27 years old(and i was honest). And yep, it went well.

[Mehrunes]

This kind of ties in with the general fear of failure people have though. I don't think simply saying "grow a pair" is addressing the core of it.

Technically he said "grow some drawers".

[Deleted]

I always get a yes when I ask, so this question is redundant.

[Deleted]

You win some you lose some. Always aim so far out of your league you can't even see the league and sooner or later you find one who finds you attractive.