Girlfriend posing for Playboy...

[Deleted]

Given i havent read trough 50 pages, am i the only one who thinks the OP should be happy with a woman hot enough for playboy so stop QQ?

[Self Inflicted Wounds]

Given i havent read trough 50 pages, am i the only one who thinks the OP should be happy with a woman hot enough for playboy so stop QQ?

Maybe if you are desperate and think the only thing that matters is outside appearance. Her obviously bad traits heavily outweigh her "good" body.

We don't even know if she got into PLayboy, and I'm sure anyone could send their pictures into Playboy to try to get in.

[Stelio Kontos]

Maybe if you are desperate and think the only thing that matters is outside appearance. Her obviously bad traits heavily outweigh her "good" body.

We don't even know if she got into PLayboy, and I'm sure anyone could send their pictures into Playboy to try to get in.

The photographer said he could get her into Playboy I bet. And all she had to do was go with him to the back room...

[captaincoffeecup]

OK, so first up, I haven't read the whole thread so forgive me if there is some repetition here.

My girlfriend of ten years IS a professional model. She worked part time at it until about four years ago when she went full time. Her work is primarily in education as an artists model with life drawing groups, portrait, sculpture etc. and she is very good at it (one of the few professional models in the south east of England and is widely regarded as the best at what she does). She has been approached by softcore and hardcore porn organisations from across the world and has declined to do the work as she isn't comfortable with it, but she has done many nude photo and video shoots for reputable companies (for example, she was recently approached by Sony Computer Entertainment to model for game artists, she has worked with a major computer graphics and animation studio on a series of DVDs on modelling the human body etc.).

It is her choice to take off her cloths for money, not mine. Does it bother me? No. Not one bit. She is a beautiful, charming young woman who takes ownership of her body. It isn't mine to dictate what is done with. What the OP needs to wrap his head around is that your girlfriend posing for nude pictures is two things:

1: Her choice.
2: It has zero impact on you.

Your issue is that you are insecure about your girlfriend and your relationship. Your probably wondering why a beautiful young woman is with you (I know I do all the time), when she could be with someone better looking, more financially secure, more successful etc. Well, the truth of the matter is that she is with you. Just like it is her choice to show her body of, it is her choice to be with you.

That said, it isn't OK for her to ignore your feelings on the matter. If you are bothered by it she has to respect that. Not letting you go to bikini competitions for example is just asking for you to get pissed off and worried so she should give some ground. I think if you saw what she does first hand rather than fretted and worried about what you think it is like then you would feel a whole lot better.

If she does get asked to do Playboy (and no offence but the standards that Playboy has it would be highly unlikely that she would) it is a very reputable firm and you should both be proud that Hugh Hefner himself has approved her (he still approves every single model used in the magazine and websites personally), and she should be OK with you going on the shoot.

The point I am trying to make is that you should both compromise a bit. She is obviously a smart girl but probably feels really insecure about herself (trust me, no matter how beautiful she is she hates the way she looks) so you need to support her and she needs to understand that it can be hard for us men to accept our girlfriends being seen as sexual objects by other men.

[Self Inflicted Wounds]

The photographer said he could get her into Playboy I bet. And all she had to do was go with him to the back room...

Yeah, no big deal. She can do whatever she wants. She is her own person and doesn't need permission from him!

[Stelio Kontos]

Yeah, no big deal. She can do whatever she wants. She is her own person and doesn't need permission from him!

But if he sent any sexts or racy pics to another woman...

[Deleted]

The OP has the right to be consearnd, she should have told him what she plans in front, and then do it , taking him into consideration.
Only one more thing to ask for the girls: ih your BF wuld pose half naked or fully naked and he did't tell you about it upfront, you wuld say ok? np , or ?
I am sorry but i cant elaborate more cose my english writing sucks.

[Self Inflicted Wounds]

But if he sent any sexts or racy pics to another woman...

I don't even want to think about how mad she might be!

[Mayhem]

No, not just share. Ask for permission and make sure your partner is okay with it. You can't just throw about doing anything and then say "it's my body!!!" when it comes to stuff like this. You're not alone in a relationship, it's not just about you and what you want at that point.

so you make it about him and what he wants

aha

[Self Inflicted Wounds]

so you make it about him and what he wants

aha

No, you should make things about "us." Simple as that. Your decisions are likely to effect those around you.

[Graeham]

No, you should make things about "us." Simple as that. Your decisions are likely to effect those around you.

That implies that there's accountability for one's actions. A lot of people unfortunately don't recognise that.

It's little wonder as to why there's so many issues in our society when people rush to blame others for the mess made when they screw up or deceive those around them.

[Stelio Kontos]

No, you should make things about "us." Simple as that. Your decisions are likely to effect those around you.

"Us" is a big, complicated word for some people.

"Me" is much easier.

[Vargur]

OK, so first up, I haven't read the whole thread so forgive me if there is some repetition here.

My girlfriend of ten years IS a professional model. She worked part time at it until about four years ago when she went full time. Her work is primarily in education as an artists model with life drawing groups, portrait, sculpture etc. and she is very good at it (one of the few professional models in the south east of England and is widely regarded as the best at what she does). She has been approached by softcore and hardcore porn organisations from across the world and has declined to do the work as she isn't comfortable with it, but she has done many nude photo and video shoots for reputable companies (for example, she was recently approached by Sony Computer Entertainment to model for game artists, she has worked with a major computer graphics and animation studio on a series of DVDs on modelling the human body etc.).

It is her choice to take off her cloths for money, not mine. Does it bother me? No. Not one bit. She is a beautiful, charming young woman who takes ownership of her body. It isn't mine to dictate what is done with. What the OP needs to wrap his head around is that your girlfriend posing for nude pictures is two things:

1: Her choice.
2: It has zero impact on you.

Your issue is that you are insecure about your girlfriend and your relationship. Your probably wondering why a beautiful young woman is with you (I know I do all the time), when she could be with someone better looking, more financially secure, more successful etc. Well, the truth of the matter is that she is with you. Just like it is her choice to show her body of, it is her choice to be with you.

That said, it isn't OK for her to ignore your feelings on the matter. If you are bothered by it she has to respect that. Not letting you go to bikini competitions for example is just asking for you to get pissed off and worried so she should give some ground. I think if you saw what she does first hand rather than fretted and worried about what you think it is like then you would feel a whole lot better.

If she does get asked to do Playboy (and no offence but the standards that Playboy has it would be highly unlikely that she would) it is a very reputable firm and you should both be proud that Hugh Hefner himself has approved her (he still approves every single model used in the magazine and websites personally), and she should be OK with you going on the shoot.

The point I am trying to make is that you should both compromise a bit. She is obviously a smart girl but probably feels really insecure about herself (trust me, no matter how beautiful she is she hates the way she looks) so you need to support her and she needs to understand that it can be hard for us men to accept our girlfriends being seen as sexual objects by other men.

Thread closed, pretty much.

[Tizdale]

I can get the not wanting to attend. The pictures themselves are usually tasteful, and the camerafolks professionals who really don't give a rats arse who is standing there nude.. and really won't get turned on.

The models however, are all running around naked, doing their stuff. And it's just kind of part of the scene. The same happens with bikinimodelling.. do you really think they get into a locked up changing room all the time? Nope.. they just change on set. I can understand quite well that you prefer not to have your SO there.. as well, there are also other models -you- might be looking at..

It's a nice way to make some quick money, and as long as she has the body/looks for it.. I'd motivate her to keep doing it. The modelling usually stops at a certain age.. The only real downside is if some time in the future a new boss/co-workers ever find out about the pics..
Which also depends on if she cares or not, if she's not ashamed about them, and doesn't have a "I don't want anyone to find out" attitude about them, no harm done.

[Self Inflicted Wounds]

That implies that there's accountability for one's actions. A lot of people unfortunately don't recognise that.

It's little wonder as to why there's so many issues in our society when people rush to blame others for the mess made when they screw up or deceive those around them.

"Us" is a big, complicated word for some people.

"Me" is much easier.

Very good insights here. I suggest that many of you read this and ponder it over instead of screaming about "permissions" and "insecurities."

[Deleted]

so you make it about him and what he wants

aha

You're 2 in relationship. Not one person, it's "Us" a in relationship, or should be.

[Deleted]

read 1st post first thing that came to my mind was chorus from chris brown song "Loyalty" (great song describes most of the western woman)

Anyway dump her srs ,its obvious that she doesnt respect you and will probably continue to take a dump on you whenever smth comes up that may impact both of you.
W/o trust there is no relationship.

Also pics of your gf.

[Self Inflicted Wounds]

You're 2 in relationship. Not one person, it's "Us" a in relationship, or should be.

Yeah, I don't see where people get this picture of relationships. As if you can really just do whatever you want and have no consequence from it. Its a partnership, and a team. Your SO isn't your parent, who basically has to "put up" with your inconsiderate ass.

[icausewipes]

Do you guys have kids or plan to?

[Ammeg]

No one has ever said that they own women, I dont know what people are even talking about anymore. The guy you quoted SPECIFICALLY said that all she should have done was let him know so he can make an informed decision about the relationship, like completely the opposite of what you are insinuating

Before you rant at someone you might wanna read their post correctly. The person I quoted was the person I was agreeing with. So... no idea how my views would be the opposite of theirs when they are the same. Given that I ignored the rest of your post as it came across as you bitching at me fo having an apparent different opinion of the one quoted. Which I do not...

The extra parts of my comment were aimed at the other people in the thread who believe that women are being controlled by men. Which if you read who I was quoting would have also made sense.