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Okay, so I live in a house with my friend. His Mom owns the house so he is more or less the surrogate landlord, but I do pay rent to stay there so it's not like I'm freeloading (hell if I was I would just take all his shit and be happy about it and this post would never have been written).
So basically he's extremely nitpicky about certain things. Lights being left on is a big one. I can't count the number of times I've been chastised about them. Sometimes he's so quick that I actually intend to turn a light off, but he catches me beforehand and says something about it. I try to play along and have gotten pretty good at turning lights off so I don't really have to hear about it much anymore.
Then there is the door. He doesn't like the door being left open for any length of time longer than it would take for someone to open it, walk out, and immediately shut it. He chastised me a couple times and then I blew up on him because I was just trying to be polite and leave the door open for him because I though he was coming in right after me and I didn't want to just slam the door in his face, and I get talked at for that? Come on.
But that was at least a month ago, fast forward to today. I notice there are a lot of tiny flies in the house and say "jeez, there sure are a lot of flies in here" and he says "that's why we need to shut the door." That kind of made me angry because I feel like that was a shot in my direction, but I ignored it and started using the garbage disposal. Then he comes out and sees me turn off water BEFORE I turn off the garbage disposal (like literally one second before). Apparently this is a huge sin and he corrects me on this as well. That's when I got pissed and we got into a big fight because I feel like I'm just being ridden on so many small issues I can never get a break!
Btw he was not being very pleasant as he said these things...he was already pissed because I asked him if he could throw out some food that had just been sitting out there for days, and he was like "I don't want to do that." To me that sounds pretty finite, but apparently, as he explained to me later, that just meant he didn't want to do it right then, but he was planning on doing it later (then maybe just say that? But no...I'm supposed to just infer the meaning).
Basically it just annoys me that I try to follow all these rules...I do run water with the garbage disposal...I try to keep every light off when its not needed...I try to NEVER leave the door open for any length of time...but if I screw up at all, EVER, I get it shit for it. I feel like he's my freaking mother, except my real mom would never give a shit about any of these things, thus why I'm not used to doing them on this extreme level.
And the ironic thing about this whole door situation is that his mom runs a drivers ed class in one of the rooms in the house...so if anyone is leaving the door open for extended periods...it's her and her 27+ TEENAGE STUDENTS...not me. I have never left it open for more than 20 seconds MAX, and I rarely do that.
So I guess the point of this post here is...what's your opinion on this? Am I right that he's just being too nitpicky? Or do I just need to accept all these criticisms in good faith?