Earlier this week on the dreaded Facebook (which I primarily use to keep up with gamer friends and family) I mentioned that my son was asleep but he was making noises. One of my gamer friends said that I was a bad mother for "putting him down". I laughed and responded with "Yea, put him down like a dog...or a monkey! Bwahahaha!" My son is mixed. I found the joke hilarious. My sister on the other hand typed "Self hate much?" I told her that just because a racist joke is racist doesn't make it unfunny.
Fast forward a few days.
My sister's wedding is coming up and like all bridezillas, she's losing a grip on her mind. She posts "I hate black people sometimes". I responded with "Self hate much?"
Now anyone else would see the funny/irony in this. No. Not my sister. This is what she typed:
"Uh..One I'm not ghetto..Two you constantly degrade black people in front of your honky friends making it seem that it's cool or something..In reality it makes you look dumb and makes them think its ok for them peckerwoods to make KKK jokes regarding niggers monkeys every goddamn racist thing else you think is funny..no matter how many mixed kids you have or how white you talk..they will always see you as a nigger boo boo.... ANYWAYS..As I was saying ghetto blacks with instant attitude especially when running a business..fuck you I'll take my business elsewhere til you learn fucking manners."
My boyfriend and I were completely dumbstruck by this. Then all that anger management went right out the window when I typed:
"Wow. You have such a horrible attitude. Sorry you have such a sad outlook on people and life. Have fun in your misery. And don't bother responding as I will not be looking at anything you write."
I have not looked at any other posts from her.
She looks at me as some sort of racist because I don't hang around other black people and I don't find black men attractive. What she isnt taking into consideration is that I don't like people in general and I have nothing in common with most black females. Why would I hang out with people I have nothing to bond with? And I just find white guys to be more attractive. Sue me. And I'm a gamer. I make racist jokes of all races and sexist jokes all the time. Its why I was with my bf. He has the same mentality when we met playing WoW.
My bf doesn't even want to go now and doesn't want her to see our son. This would be the first time since he was born that he would see the brown part of his family. (Yes, I bet she would get upset with me saying that.)
Now the situation is that in less than a week I'm supposed to be going up to KC for her wedding. I don't want to go now. I'd go just to visit family and friends. She bought the ticket so it would seem like a dick move to actually do that. And I was supposed to be staying at her house with my bf and son. I'm still a bit upset (obviously as I'm posting this) but should I suck it up and text her and see if I still have tickets and a place to stay or should I just stay at a friends house? (Calling her has never been a real option. She barely picks up the phone and doesn't listen to any messages. You have a 70% chance of getting a response from texting her but a 98% chance if you do it through Facebook.)