I'll break this down.
Basicly me and my girlfriend of 3 years, were taking a break due to we need time apart ( If you feel you need time apart, this is not the one you will spend your life with ). Now dont get this wrong, we both agreed its a good thing and such ( You both agree you are getting tired of each other )....but...last night she told me shes going on holiday with this guy while were on a break ( She is going on Holiday with the guy she is leaving you for )and then basicly i told her if you go , its done and over and were done and ill want nothing to do with you etc ( Good Call, if she truly loved you, she wouldn't want to be with someone else )...!
Now the reason i got mad is because this guy and her actualy spoke behind my back a while ago ( She already betrayed you once, get ready cause it's about to happen again ) and i actualy found it out cause i checked her phone ( You invaded her privacy, shame on you. However if you felt you needed to do so, you already didn't trust her )....so people of mmo am i wrong here , am i an ass here or would u react the exact same way??
Just feels odd....and very dodgy...and im just 1 of those guys that does not want to get fooled around with!
Just leave her man, nothing good ever comes from these situations
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
Breaks ARE the end of the relationship.
There is no implication that the break will end, if that was the case we'd just call it "giving each other some space".
If you are on a break, the relationship has finished, but you are finishing it in such a way that doesn't burn bridges in case you want to get back together.
Did she find out you checked her phone, and how did she react?
Was she ok with it? Or was she offended?
Men aren't the only ones who like to engage in power play in relationships. Women do it too. If she was pissed at you for checking her phone, yet it is ok for her to check yours, then she is playing you out. If this was the case, I would say she wants you wrapped around her finger. She wants to be sure she has you under control, while she is allowed to run with the wolves.
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
I personally don't believe in the concept of "breaks" in a relationship - you are either together or you're not, there's not really a nebulous state in which you're both committed and not committed like a kind of Schrodinger's Relationship. It should be a given that if you've not officially dissolved the relationship, and it was previously monogamous, then it would remain monogamous without both parties having to agree to it again. This scenario sounds, at least to me, like one side of the party trying to redefine the nature of the relationship (e.g. from monogamous to open, perhaps) without actually using those words. If the parties disagree to the nature of the relationship going forward then the best practice is to formally end it.
"We're more of the love, blood, and rhetoric school. Well, we can do you blood and love without the rhetoric, and we can do you blood and rhetoric without the love, and we can do you all three concurrent or consecutive. But we can't give you love and rhetoric without the blood. Blood is compulsory. They're all blood, you see." ― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead
Yeah, she is playing with you. Leave her. I have totally been here before, nothing good comes of this situation. She has likely cheated on you already if she flips when you want to see her phone. Especially if she feels it's totally ok for her to check your phone, but your not allowed to see hers.
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
If my partner asked to see my phone I would freak out whether I had anything to hide. If they want to go through your phone, they don't trust you.
Like, I have nothing incriminating on my phone at all (i've never cheated or whatever) but would still break up before I let someone go through my phone without good reaosn.
(good reason being 'i wanna see your pictures out of curiosity' or like 'i need bryony's phone number' or something like that, not 'i think you are cheating' )
Breaks are bs. You're dating or you're not. Grade 11 will be better.
Its totally done man. Best thing for you to do is bang one of her friends. Failing that try her mom or sister if she has one.
Nope. The fact that you ask to go through means you don't trust me. What are you expecting to find on there? Either you expect to find evidence of cheating, or you expect to find nothing. If you expect to find nothing, why do you need to look, if you expect to find evidence of me cheating, then you already think I'm cheating in which case you can fuck off