Over the past 4 or 5 years, there has been a lot of pushback in our culture in how we talk about and treat victims and all people who have had to deal with certain atrocities. Most of it makes perfect sense and in hindsight was very much needed. Comments like "but what was she wearing?" really were turning the focus away from the assailant to the victim in an unneeded way and the shockingly gross "she was asking for it" has greatly diminished as of late (yay!). However, like all good things, I believe things CAN be taken too far. I've had a dickens of a time telling ANYONE to do ANYTHING vaguely cautious without being verbally smacked upside the head for victim blaming, which is quite odd to me. A few years back, if one of my friends wanted to walk through the docks, industrial district, or south end at night alone I would have told them it was a bad idea and they should probably reconsider. I myself wouldn't do that and Im a freakin' bouncer for crying out loud. I still warn people (because it is a bad idea) but am more often than not met with ridicule of either sexism if the person I'm warning is a woman (you think I can't take care of myself because I'm a woman?) or victim blaming (Yeah, sure, it's not the muggers that are being shitty it's me!). If someone mugs you, it's not your fault. However, if someone mugs you at 2 in the morning in a dark alley in the bad part of town by yourself (cliche example is cliche, I know), you might have to ask yourself what you were doing there in the first place frankly. Chalking up any and all appeal to caution as victim blaming seems like an odd lack of personal responsibility to me.
I personally see a HUGE difference between taking precautions and blaming the victim, but that line seems to be blurring in the current narrative. What are your thoughts on the matter MMO-Champ? Am I terribly out of touch with reality or has the concept of caution and responsibility been somewhat thrown out the window as of late?
Before anyone starts coming in this thread appealing to any sense of privilege I have that makes me too blind to see the obvious truth, I've been sexually assaulted, mugged, AND robbed in my life of which none of them were my fault. Sometimes bad things just happen even when taking precautions and I TOTALLY get that.