Hey MMOC, I made a thread the other day asking for life advice which proved to be quite useful, so I'm hoping to get more help in other areas with this one.
TL;DR: I'm 23 years old, kept the mindset that if I followed my own life I'd meet someone along the way. Recently been asked why I am still single from multiple people. Beginning to panic. No idea how to approach online dating, out of school (at the moment) with no real connections to people my own age.
My situation
I am 23 years old and a recent college grad, got a decent job that is very fun, pays well and I'm really enjoying it. Thinking about saving up some money while working to go back to school either at night while working or just going full time and finishing fast. I still live with my parents to help eliminate some finance burdens but that shouldn't be the case much longer. I have an active gym membership with a trainer to fill my free time, however I don't have many people in my life my own age. I work with people significantly older than myself and can't find any rec clubs for people my own age in the area. (I'd like to join a pick up hockey group if I could find one)
Anyway, at a family reunion the other day (Italian background so its a big family) my cousins and relatives my age all happened to bring their significant others. (They're all relatively close to me in age although I am on the younger side of things) I haven't ever brought a girl to one of these events. My aunt actually pulled me aside at this thing and asked me why I'm still single and have never brought a girl to one of these in the past. She actually went as far as to assume that I was gay... Family though right?
It isn't that I'm not ready to date or haven't tried to look (I've joined the odd dating site ever so often but I wouldn't say I've actively looked). I've always had the mindset that these sort of things happened naturally. If I follow my life then I will meet like minded people and things will fall into place. But recently people in my life have been entering relationships and asking me "why are you still single?" so I'm starting to wonder if I need to make more of an effort.
I signed up for plenty of fish since its the only dating site I know and have immediately noticed that any girl I see who looks cute usually has one incredibly generic profile "I like going out and staying in, OMG NETFLIX, friends and family first. Don't message me for hookups"
So I really have no idea what I'm supposed to say to that. I'm not introverted or anything I can hold a conversation but I cannot break the ice at all.
So my questions:
- How/when did you meet your signifigant other?
- Does your family/friends ever ask you why you're still single?
- Should I be panicing about this like I am now?
- What do you say to someone to break the ice on an online dating site/Tinder type app.
I know it was long, but I appreciate your advice. The other thread I made was very useful and helped me land the job I had and figure out a good goal on where to aim next in my life. You guys are great. So thanks again.