TL;DR: Why is it that many people early to mid twenties (usually girls [I personally have little knowledge of what happens on the other end but please share]) feel the need to rush into a long term relationship? Sometimes so quickly that you barely know if there is a connection there.
Why is it that once in a relationship the significant other seems to be the foundation of the other persons life, the center of every story and their reply to just about everything? That doesn't seem healthy to me.
I've been making a lot of threads lately in OT about relationships and such, Spoilers I've started dating.
I have started seeing a few people over the past months, not all hits but not all misses either. Of the handful that I have came across they've all had one thing in common.
They really REALLY want a relationship. Even if the connection isn't there. I'll get a mass of texts/emails from them, even though its obvious (at least I think it is) that I don't reciprocate the feelings. We'll have little shared interests other than a physical attraction but they still talk as if they've found the one.
I know I am not all that great so there has to be something in the water here. You don't go out with someone once and then fall in love the next day, Right?
Even the ladies at the office spend most of their spare time talking about relationships or their husbands. It's insane. I mean yes its healthy to like the person they are with and be proud of it. But it almost seems like they're using their significant other as a trophy to show off. Then they will also turn around and start up a story about them and the others will chime in too.
"oh my Jerry would never do something like that!"
"Oooo you'll never guess what I caught bob doing!"
Which leads any of the other single people around them to either be picked on, or neglected. I don't get it.
I'm trying not to be gender specific but it seems like women really push for a long run commitment very early in a relationship when I'm only just getting a feel for if I actually connect with this person. Is there a reason for this? Is it just how they were raised or is it a biological thing?
Thanks.