Ok, here's the deal. I'm a 25 year old male and I feel lonely at times as my friends have generally found mates of their own, even my best friend and I've seen how they have fun together and are happy and I kind of want someone to be happy like that with someone too.
The deal is that I'm shy and generally have hobbies that are done in-doors (gaming, movies, books) and I work in a place where there aren't many women (gaming industry, there are about 25% girls at my company, but all taken) so I can't really meet someone doing something we both like (as, let's be honest, if I meet a woman online, she's generally like on the other side of the planet or the age difference is over 10 years and that's kind of the maximum I can accept) nor can I meet someone at the workplace.
Now, another issue is that I've never had a relationship in my life. I tried a few times and failed (generally because I'm shy and get shy when I like a girl so don't know what to say in person and that leaves a bad first impression OR because I'm friends with the woman, I fall in love with her but she considers me just a friend and is not attracted to me). The thing is that I'm
not looking for a random casual sex date, I'd like to possibly start a long lasting relationship.
I can never understand how people meet possible dates face to face. I mean, just today I was in the subway and there was this girl with some amazing eyes. What was I supposed to say "hey, you have nice eyes, bet your smile is even nicer, how about a coffee once" or something? I don't know, that sounds kind of alien to me to say to a person in the subway. Or... anywhere for that matter, if you don't know the person.
So I thought about online dating sites, I have some questions:
-which do you think is a good dating site? why?
-how do these dating sites even work? can I for example highlight that I'm a gamer and that you can't accept someone who might play computer games at times, I'm not interested?
-generally your experience with dating sites are good or bad?
-if you've met people online(no matter if friends or dates), and they were talkative like a regular human but then met them in real life and they were kind of shy and introverted, would you be willing to try it again?