I don't normally make threads on this site and don't normally look for personal advice about my life, but I'm curious on what you guys have to say.
I met this young woman in late August/early September of last year, don't remember the exact day. For confusion's sake let's call her Beth. I found her instantly attractive, but she liked another guy. Fair enough, I didn't think anything of it at the time. Beth helped me get a bouncing gig at her job not long after that and we were coworkers for a bit. Her feelings faded for the other guy but again it didn't matter to me as I never get involved with coworkers and we now worked together. We started hanging out more outside of work and really becoming close friends. There was a subtle air of flintiness, but nothing remotely overt. We would go to bars together and watch movies curled up in bed, but we wouldn't sleep together or even kiss. Later on she got fired from the place we worked at and got another job. We were no longer coworkers now and I thought about asking Beth on a legitimate date, but not longer after that she met a guy. I honestly wasn't too bitter because we didn't really get involved and if truth be told there were other women in my life that were interested in me. Time passed as I watched her fall in and out of short little crushes, but we started hanging out more and more. We became best friends, legitimately. We hung out (and still hang out) around 4 days every single week. I met someone who I had gotten involved with around this time while Beth would occasionally engage in one night stands with little success, but always good stories to share the next day with none other than me. This progressed to quite literally getting daily phone calls between each other and the woman I was involved with straight up telling me that I had latent feelings for Beth. I did, but I hadn't thought about them for months. As far as I was concerned, Beth wasn't attracted to me, we were just good friends, and that was totally fine. That dynamic is now being called in to question.
Recently, the woman I am semi-involved with said that we had long term potential but that in the short term it isn't exactly going to be perfect due to distance/time/schedule/life/BS. We don't see each other all that much admittedly and she gets lonely when I'm gone and unfortunately jealous of how much time and energy I invest into Beth. I was a little hurt but saw where she was coming from, and she proposed to keep things in an open arrangement for a while. Not my first choice but it is what it is. Just last week I lost my job. That night I only two people: the woman I'm semi-involved with, and Beth. Beth was at a neighborhood bar I frequent somewhat regularly and told me to swing by. She was flirting with a guy about 5 years older than her (which is totally her type) but definitely stopped to comfort me and be a friend when I arrived. (As a side note, the guy she was flirting with is a manager at a nice restaurant she's trying to get a job at otherwise she said I would have had her full and undivided attention.) We left at 2 when the bar closed and headed to my place, got a bit drunk, and put on a Netflix movie. We had done this dozens of times in this last year and I thought nothing of it, this was business as usual. However, she started saying she was horny and that I'm an attractive guy. I told her a couple times that I didn't want to do anything crazy because I didn't want to impact our friendship and tried to change the subject, but she kept occasionally dropping very obvious hints. Eventually I succumbed and we slept together. I don't think I did all that well since I was nervous and drunk (she was also drunk, so I don't think anyone can really say anyone took advantage of anyone), but she was oddly sweet about and told me how comfortable she was around me. I later gave her a massage and we cuddled for a bit before she said she was getting hungry and that she had food at her place. We had sobered up by then and we went to her place for food and both crashed at her place since by now it was very late, or more accurately very early. She crashed in the bed, and I crashed in the sofa. When I awoke, she wanted me to drive 4 hours to surprise her mother for mother's day and wanted me to meet her mother. Oddly enough I agreed, and we went. She certainly wasn't avoiding me if the next day she wanted to be in a small space with me for hours on end, but we have not had sex since or talked about it much at all. She's mentioned in passing without any sense of regret or blushing, not also not a sense of passion or longing. Just as usual, we spent around 4 days together this week and the incident did not seem to negatively impact our friendship at all.
So MMO-Champ, what exactly is going on?
Do you believe this was just a one time thing?
Do you believe that she might have feelings for me that she doesn't know how to express or maybe she herself hasn't fully processed?
Have any of you been in a similar position?
What is your advice on how I should proceed with this?