Is it Ever OK to Snoop on Your Partner?

[MatthewOU2015]

http://www.cnn.com/2015/05/26/living...130pVODtopLInk

This CNN article got me thinking. I would say no it's never okay. I've been in relationships before where my girlfriend would be like "Let me check your phone" and I would tell her no. Not because I have something to hide , but because I value my privacy. In my opinion, just because you are in a relationship does not mean you give up your privacy. Plus you should have trust in one another. Snooping never ends well.

[draganid]

its a good thing my gf gives me privacy, she wouldnt like what she found if she dug lol

[Independent voter]

I get rid of stuff that I don't want her to see. It's not all that hard not to delete your porn folder and not download porn or to get rid of old emails to ex's.

[the game]

If you feel it needed to snoop on your partner then you should prob not be in the relationship anymore.

[Calfredd]

If you have suspicions that your partner is cheating on you, then maybe(?) you have a basis of poking around because if they are cheating on you, I doubt they would admit it if you were to ask them.

[Mihalik]

If I feel the need to snoop...it's either that I'm about 85% sure you are cheating on me, or our relationship is pretty much over anyways and I'm just looking for an excuse.

In my life I only ever missed the signs that a relationship was on its way out once. Tho it was one of those situations where the person was very fake and full of herself.

She left me for her boss at the job I got her. After about 2 weeks the guy went back to his wife, she got "promoted" to a position she didn't like just to get her out of the way. Couple of days later she was trying to get back with me. Which kinda explains what sort of person she was and how she could be so full of shit. Very few people are capable of being so full of shit.

[Gandrake]

id be like yeah okay let me see ur phone then

and then i'd go in the bathroom and take a bunch of dick pics

but no, not really. i'd end a relationship if i thought it was being cheated on.

[A Chozo]

If she asks to see my phone, sure, why not.
But not behind my back! Because sometimes I plan surprises using phone messages :V

[Jester Joe]

It depends.

It's totally possible to mistreat someone in a relationship to the point of where they don't trust you, it's also possible to lose someone's trust if you're acting oddly.

It's also totally possible to just be a controlling jerkface.

[THE Bigzoman]

I get rid of stuff that I don't want her to see. It's not all that hard not to delete your porn folder and not download porn or to get rid of old emails to ex's.

I stopped being apologetic and elsuive with my porn history. My sisters/mom still comment on it here and again. So fucking what?

I don't make it known that I look a porn here and again, but I don't try to hide it. I'm sure someone would come across it on google chrome or if you looked really hard at my lists on bittorrent.

What can they tell you, don't look at porn on your computer?!!!!

[Nachturnal]

Came in here expecting a Snoop Dogg thread.

Disappointed.

OT: No?

[Rasstapp]

Only if you suspect your partner of secretly being Hitler reborn.

[Itisamuh]

I don't see anything wrong with it personally as long as it's not obsessive. I'd rather be in a relationship where we didn't have anything to hide. If you've got reason to believe they might be up to no good then you probably aren't going to find out by asking.

[mr-pacwoman]

No. Of course, ideally, there shouldn't be anything you have to hide from one another. But if it ever gets to the point where you don't trust your partner enough that you feel the need to snoop, then you shouldn't be with them.

[Doctor Amadeus]

No, never, it's a sign of immaturity and mistrust, if you need to spy on someone because you don't trust them, you need to resolve the trust issues, or move on, invading someones privacy is wrong, something stalkers do, and it typically leads badly, maybe not right away, but not too far after.

[Korlok]

Yes. But only in the shower.

[drwelfare]

If you think she is cheating then she is. React appropriately

[Kaykay]

OP's example i wouldn't exactly call snooping.

There's a difference between asking permission, and straight up sneaking a peek while they're looking the other way.

You should not sneak a peek, and you cannot expect your partner to let you check their phone.

Knowing your partners friends thinks you're a bitch, wont really make your day any better.

[The One Percent]

If you think she is cheating then she is. React appropriately

You mean make a relationship help thread on mmo champion? Is this girl fucking my parents?

[Suikoden]

The only time I'd condone looking through your partner's stuff is when there's legit shady shit goin' on. Returning home late, being unusually evasive when questioned etc.