I'm a girl in the friendzone. Help me out boys!

[NeemaWindrunner]

Ok, so tl;dr -- I've just recently been through a divorce (it's over, guy was a douche.) When all this went down, I had a male friend who was trying to get me to leave him anyways, because the ex was mentally abusive and was starting to show signs of physical abuse. Let's call this friend Horsie. Horsie let me move in with him, rent free, until I start back to work in August (I drive a school bus, and I'm out of work atm.) Me and Horsie are besties. We knew we kinda had feelings for each other before my divorce, but since I was married and we both are moral people, we'd ignored them.

Anyways. I move in with Horsie. I don't have any furniture, so I'm sleeping in his bed. I've gotten a little money from my last couple of paychecks for the year, so I've helped some, but for the most part he's buying mostly everything. We ACT like a couple. He kisses me...holds my hand in public...we go everywhere together almost. right now, since I'm not working and I'm home so much, I clean, do his laundry, cook, act just like a girlfriend / wife. We sleep in the same bed, like I said. He admits that he cares for me...every once in a while, he'll slip and something will come out about how he really feels about me...but then...he reserves himself SO very tight.

See, he's never been in a relationship...he's never had a girlfriend. He's not had a lot of sex. He's never had feelings for someone. He's always been more worried about gaming and other things like that. He's an AMAZING guy. We have tons of fun together. And we've done sexual stuff once.

But he won't take that step. His mixed signals are worse than a female's. One moment, we're "friends with benefits" then the next he's talking about how he's never going to leave. One day he's tying me to the bed because he's comfortable Domming a woman, but can't handle a makeout session because it's emotional.

TL;DR
Guy likes me
I like guy
guy is nerdy video game virgin
cool with me, I'll help him learn relationships.
sending me mixed signals.
what do?

I can't think of anything I haven't covered, but if you have any questions. then feel free to ask!

[Deleted]

Tell him that you like him. And Men are not giving signals, we ignore Girls and hope they jump on us.

[DirtyDotter]

Gimme your number and i'll help you out lol

[Uko]

Men are dense if you don't tell us something we don't know it.

[Jester Joe]

Wait, a male friendzoning?

I'm...uh...you're gonna have to give me a minute here....

Try flat out asking him if he'd be happy to try making it official?

Men are dense if you don't tell us something we don't know it.

Not actually true, but sometimes men have doubts too, like "Do they really feel as strong as it seems?"

[NeemaWindrunner]

Tell him that you like him. And Men are not giving signals, we ignore Girls and hope they jump on us.

Oh, believe me, HE KNOWS. I've told him. Literally to the point of grabbing his...stuff...and telling him "mine." I'm a little aggressive. xD
I'm fine with going as slow as he wants, but I need to know what is going on. Should I date? No? Are we kinda a couple? Are we just friends? I don't know.

Wait, a male friendzoning?

I'm...uh...you're gonna have to give me a minute here....

Try flat out asking him if he'd be happy to try making it official?



Not actually true, but sometimes men have doubts too, like "Do they really feel as strong as it seems?"

I have. he says "eventually, I'd like for it to get there."
but then he'll say something about "if you meet this person." I kinda feel like he's not interested in me as much as he'd like, but I'm the only girl that's ever shown him attention. To be honest, I'm a little bit of a chub. :\ I'm working on losing weight, and I'm not ugly, but I do have a tummy. (but nice boobs / butt so yeah. I dunno.)

[Twix]

Troll 0/10

Infracted

[obdigore]

Offer Buttstuff.

Guys like Buttstuff.

Especially Really Awkwardly offered Buttstuff.

[Doctor Amadeus]

Yes, don't ever ask men for advice on women, it's almost as bad as men asking women for advice on women, the answer you are going to get will be steeped in bias and ineffective bullshit.

[Independent voter]

Talking is good. Ask him where he sees you and him two years and five years from now. If the guy is older it's hard for older guys to change so you might be wasting your time.

[THE Bigzoman]

Put out the next time you're in bed and the lubby dubby is going.

- - - Updated - - -

Yes, don't ever ask men for advice on women, it's almost as bad as men asking women for advice on women, the answer you are going to get will be steeped in bias and ineffective bullshit.

She's come to the right place actually.

[Jester Joe]

Offer Buttstuff.

Guys like Buttstuff.

Especially Really Awkwardly offered Buttstuff.

My gag reflex can only take so much.

[melkesjokolade]

I dont like this thread....

[obdigore]

My gag reflex can only take so much.

A to M? I don't know if their relationship is at that point, but you do what is right for you, Joe.

[mizeri]

Well, you can continue to beat around the bush and play a bunch of weird games in the mythical "friend zone," or you can do something remotely useful and talk it out because you're both adults and should be able to handle that shit.

i thought he already beat up the bush

[Jester Joe]

A to M? I don't know if their relationship is at that point, but you do what is right for you, Joe.

Oh god no YOU KNOW WHAT I MEANT!

Every time Buttstuff comes up I have to make sure its known I think it's gross!

Want to be the second link of my human centipede?

Are you the first?

[Breccia]

One day he's tying me to the bed because

You and I have different versions of "Friend Zone"

[NeemaWindrunner]

Put out the next time you're in bed and the lubby dubby is going.

- - - Updated - - -



She's come to the right place actually.

I've TRIED to put out. He's nervous about it. And I figured a video game forum would be a good place to ask about a 30 year old video game playing, nerdy virgin. No hate, I'm almost in the same boat haha.

[obdigore]

Oh god no YOU KNOW WHAT I MEANT!

Something about buttstuff?

Every time Buttstuff comes up I have to make sure its known I think it's gross!

You sound like a Republican who hates them gays then is found in the Minneapolis Airport Bathroom blowing some latin dude.

You doth protest to much...
[/QUOTE]

[THE Bigzoman]

I've TRIED to put out. He's nervous about it. And I figured a video game forum would be a good place to ask about a 30 year old video game playing, nerdy virgin. No hate, I'm almost in the same boat haha.

Start him off slow then. Start with a lap dance or something. Assuming this isn't trolling here, but you're gonna have to be the agressor here.

You think he's doing a lot for you now? If you pull this shit off and take his V, he'll be eating out of your hand.