Vicious Circle of Attraction

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For me I am seemingly only attracted to people out of my league e.g. people that don't find me attractive. Because of this I have often (not always) settled for less which unfortunately caused a relationship where they fancied me more than I them and that's obviously a recipe for disaster. Curious if others find themselves in similar situations? Personally I probably have unrealistic high standards

[Gamdwelf]

Not exactly similar but I'm also attracted to people out if my leave so I settle for nothing. Because nobody wants alla this.

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Obviously the solution to your problem is to get uglier.

[Independent voter]

Sit down and talk to someone in your league, you might like them. You can become attracted to someone after the initial first impression.

I saw a funny post the other day about this guy who wished he had a meter that he could point at someone to tell if they were in his league or not. The meter would have a scale of 1 to 10.

[Gamdwelf]

Sit down and talk to someone in your league, you might like them. You can become attracted to someone after the initial first impression.

I saw a funny post the other day about this guy who wished he had a meter that he could point at someone to tell if they were in his league or not. The meter would have a scale of 1 to 10.

Only wants the hottest gay men .

[Deleted]

in my current relationship i think she is a bit out of my league, but she thinks im more attractive than her and im out of her league, so all good. we both think the other person is settling, not sire if thats good in long term or not!

[Deleted]

Sit down and talk to someone in your league, you might like them. You can become attracted to someone after the initial first impression.

I have and unfortunately it rarely ended well

[Gamdwelf]

Funny how the "league" thing only seems to go one way. I don't think I've ever seen a woman lamenting that she just couldn't measure up enough to attract a desirable guy.

No women have the problem of finding good men because they don't know what they want.

Based on anecdote and pop culture.

[Deleted]

I only think somebody is out of my league when they start talking and I see them to be much more experienced than I am. The looks are more often pointing to their lifestyle and genetic lottery than anything else.

[Dispraise]

I'm most attracted to women who are markedly average. Particularly girls who are just a little bit funny looking. Eandearing af.

Of course, when you've been enisled for years in self-imposed isolation, everybody is out of your league anyway.

[Gamdwelf]

I'm most attracted to women who are markedly average. Particularly girls who are just a little bit funny looking. Eandearing af.

Of course, when you've been enisled for years in self-imposed isolation, everybody is out of your league anyway.

There is a girl at the bank close to my house that might have a slight hunch back and her eyes are kinda crooked, and she just seems like the greatest. I could never talk to her though.

[Feali]

The Two People In A Relationship: The Settler And The Reacher

[Reeve]

My problem is different in that once I've been with someone for a few months, I lose interest and move on. Like fucking clockwork.

[Deleted]

My problem is different in that once I've been with someone for a few months, I lose interest and move on. Like fucking clockwork.

After years of relationships, don't you expect and prepare for it, even if only in your subconscious?

[TITAN308]

...settled for less...

What does this even mean?

Are you implying ugly people are some how less of a person than a super model?

[the game]

Maybe you should lower your standards a bit.

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For me I am seemingly only attracted to people out of my league e.g. people that don't find me attractive. Because of this I have often (not always) settled for less which unfortunately caused a relationship where they fancied me more than I them and that's obviously a recipe for disaster. Curious if others find themselves in similar situations? Personally I probably have unrealistic high standards

You put girls "out of your league". It is not something they do to you, it is something you are doing to yourself.

Haven't you seen beautiful girls on the arm of a fucking hideous guy who also tends to be an arsehole? Do you think that guy thinks he's out of the girls league?

[Deleted]

What does this even mean?

Are you implying ugly people are some how less of a person than a super model?

Less than what im attracted to...

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You put girls "out of your league". It is not something they do to you, it is something you are doing to yourself.

Haven't you seen beautiful girls on the arm of a fucking hideous guy who also tends to be an arsehole? Do you think that guy thinks he's out of the girls league?

I don't bang girls lol

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[TITAN308]

It's true tho. But it shouldn't be that way.

Oddly enough, over the course of my dating career (rather small I admit) before meeting my wife, I often found I was in a relationship with girls above what I would consider "my league".

With a few exceptions, nearly every one of the "smoking super model hot" women I dated, trying to have a normal day to day conversation with them was like taking sandpaper to your brain. A majority of them had no "down to earth" topics to talk about and quite literally would fall into the cliche "air head" category.

Sure the sex was fantastic, but outside of that, it was like having a pet dog, instead of a human companion.

[Bushtuckrman]

For me I am seemingly only attracted to people out of my league e.g. people that don't find me attractive. Because of this I have often (not always) settled for less which unfortunately caused a relationship where they fancied me more than I them and that's obviously a recipe for disaster. Curious if others find themselves in similar situations? Personally I probably have unrealistic high standards

Same OP but I always managed to punch above my weight successfully. Don't try to have an actual relationship with somebody you really don't want to have a relationship with, just fuck them for a while until you get sick of them. Not sure what else to say, I am the same as you but I was able to pull them. Do you need help finding which chicks that are out of your league that you can still pull?