Pornography in Relationships

[Deleted]

Do you think watching pornography whilst in a relationship is disrespectful or even a form of cheating?

[Deleted]

I watch porn and my gf knows it. Its nothing secret. I'm not cheating on her and i dont go around flirting with anyone else. Its not something she is happy that i'm doing but its worked out for us for 9 years

As for yoru actual question: No i dont

[Jakexe]

If the significant other doesn't like you watching porn and you agree to stop but don't. That's disrespectful.

Porn is not cheating ever, but if you're watching it instead of paying attention to your significant other then you have an issue, but it's still not cheating.

edit: Also odd, I was literally just talking about this with a friend who thinks it is cheating. She hates even thinking her bf is watching porn, freaks her out for some odd reason.

[zenkai]

Do you think watching pornography whilst in a relationship is disrespectful or even a form of cheating?

Some view it as such, others do not, I think I would let it be defined by the couple in question.

[Aerothane]

I would say no from my own point of view, which is bias. However this is a definitely it depends, in the fact that there is no clear and concise answer. Nor will it be the same for everyone. For me my partner knows why I do it and we've talked extensively about it and what it helps me accomplish and for fill. As well as how it makes my partner feel when I do that and essentially assuring them that its something that I do for me and has nothing to do with them. That said we still have a very healthy relationship and sex life. As with most questions and problems with relationships the issue boils down to the common answer of communication.

[Lucifer Morningstar]

Two part answer.
If the person you are with is ok with it, then it is no disrespect to be watching them, as long as you are honest about it.
If the person is not ok with you watching porn, then you should voice that opinion, and if they are insistent, then it becomes disrespectful.

A form of cheating? No. Cheating is any passionate kiss, sexual act, or sexual intercourse.

[dixincide]

Porn gives us both lots of fun ideas that sometimes aren't as fun as we had hoped.
Communication is everything.

[derpkitteh]

some think so, but they're just letting their self consciousness control them.

there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. porn's a fantasy, some types of porn can't even be achieved in real life.

[Yamuri]

It's not not cheating, it could be disrespectful if they are offended by it. It can cause self esteem issues with the significant other. Though there has to be an understanding that some people have more sexual "needs" lol. If one person just wont help out then it's bound to happen, still not cheating though.

[buck008]

If the significant other doesn't like you watching porn and you agree to stop but don't. That's disrespectful.

Basically this. Not much else needs to be said on the subject really.

What's strange for me personally though is that I like porn, and my girlfriend likes porn. However, we've never watched together, and I think it would be uncomfortable if we did. I'm staunchly against it. No idea why, the concept just repulses me.

[Jotaux]

If a significant other does not want me looking at porn they should ensure I have no reason to.

[Lightwield]

Do you think watching pornography whilst in a relationship is disrespectful or even a form of cheating?

I do not, unless you re paying more attention to it than your significant other. My wife and I watch it together sometimes. Just depends on the relationship.

[zenkai]

Two part answer.
If the person you are with is ok with it, then it is no disrespect to be watching them, as long as you are honest about it.
If the person is not ok with you watching porn, then you should voice that opinion, and if they are insistent, then it becomes disrespectful.

A form of cheating? No. Cheating is any passionate kiss, sexual act, or sexual intercourse.

I want to add to this, in a way its disrespectful either way. The person against porn doesn't automatically win.

[shmee51]

If someone has a partner who uses porn to the point where they think their partner is "cheating" then it's pretty obvious that they aren't satisfying their partner and don't see their partner as an equal who has their own needs.

[OGtime]

As others have said, its something that depends on your partner and what they are ok with/what you have agreed upon.

I am lucky and my GF likes watching some from time to time and wont mind if i watch alone.

[Mirishka]

I watch porn and my gf knows it. Its nothing secret. I'm not cheating on her and i dont go around flirting with anyone else. Its not something she is happy that i'm doing but its worked out for us for 9 years

As for yoru actual question: No i dont

So you've continued to do something that you know bothers your GF for 9 years? When you end up single, don't be surprised.

[Deleted]

If you're with someone who has a problem with you watching porn then you're with the wrong person. Leave them.

[unbound]

Do you think watching pornography whilst in a relationship is disrespectful or even a form of cheating?

I have watched pornography with my wife. Not a big deal. I wouldn't go sneaking around about it, and if it makes your spouse uncomfortable, then it is something that should be talked about.

[Deleted]

Depends on how it's done. If they're doing that rather than wanting to do something with me, then we've got a problem. If they're watching it if I don't want to do something or I'm not there, I don't have a problem with it.

[Symphonic]

If you're with someone who doesn't have a problem with you watching porn then you're with the wrong person. Leave them and find someone who only wants to share those intimate emotions with you. There's no shame in asking for total fidelity.

(In all seriousness though, if you and your significant other are ok with it, whatever. But in my opinion it's wrong, especially if you're hiding it.)