Insecurities seem to hold people back in life.

[Deleted]

I oftenly notice how other people seem to be insecure about almost anything and this also seems to be holding them back in life.

The insecurities seem to vary between almost anything you cant hink of. Let me give some examples:

- Afraid to talk to a group of people (most obvious one, everyone knows people like this).
- Afraid to speak their mind about a subject.
- Afraid to call someone over the Phone.
- Constantly seeking approval from others.
- Seeking affirmation for a purchase they made (can be anything from clothes to a certain brand of product).
- Attatching their feelig of selfworth to how "well" they do on social media (like, shares, fishing for reactions etc.).
- Attacking things others do because it differs from what they do and are afraid it makes them (feel-) less about themselves.
- Blaming others for their own failures in life (succesful people, gouvernments, friends/family etc.)
- Not going for certain goals/dreams because of how negative your thoughts are.

While a bit of insecurity is okay to deal with, a lot of it in certain areas can pretty much ruin your life.

Do you have any insecurities, how did you develop these and do do/did they influence your life?

[Feali]

You pretty much covered all of mine with the first 5.

[Deleted]

You pretty much covered all of mine with the first 5.

What so you think actually developed this in you?

[Azadina]

I'll just say, I agree with the title, based on my own experiences. I don't feel like going into details however.

[Feali]

What so you think actually developed this in you?

Rejection. Most of all.

[Deleted]

Rejection. Most of all.

I personally find rejection something interesting.
It actually scares some people and motivates others.

I guess it's all about finding yourself and working on a feeling of self worth. I hope you can do that too!
(Try watching some video's on Brendon Burchard's channel on Youtube if you got time to spare)

[Feali]

I personally find rejection something interesting.
It actually scares some people and motivates others.

I guess it's all about finding yourself and working on a feeling of self worth. I hope you can do that too!
(Try watching some video's on Brendon Burchard's channel on Youtube if you got time to spare)

Well it's all about the right mindset. At some point I stopped giving a fuck because nothing matters. Makes living much easier.

[Sketchy]

How about you OP, what are your insecurities?

[Gamdwelf]

I personally find rejection something interesting.
It actually scares some people and motivates others.

I guess it's all about finding yourself and working on a feeling of self worth. I hope you can do that too!
(Try watching some video's on Brendon Burchard's channel on Youtube if you got time to spare)

100% rejection can be fairly defeating.

[Gemini Sunrise]

Idiocy about being not attractive enough is the main thing I see in people.

For me, failure, definitely.

[primalmatter]

I had real insecurities about my body when I was younger. I was always a fat kid and to be honest I never saw myself as attractive enough that anyone but a utter slob would want me. I changed shorty after highschool though I realized that the army was really one of the few places I could succeed and worked out constantly for six months before enlisting.

I don't think it was really until a year later that I realized I had gotten into amazing shape and it changed my entire outlook on how I viewed myself and well to be honest other people. I started to pursue attractive women rather then looking for the... less appealing ones in a bar.

To be honest I'm not sure I ever got over my insecurity I just changed my body though hard work so it no longer existed. I will never allow myself to become like i was when I was younger again I delicate a hour and a half to exercise each day regardless about how I am feeling.

[Annoying]

- Seeking affirmation for a purchase they made (can be anything from clothes to a certain brand of product).

I did that with my car. I was more seeking that mythical "women will totally care" thing, though. Now I enjoy the fact that I have a car that actually suits my favorite hobby. I go to every local autocross, hit the track as often as I feel comfortable affording. Totally worth it, but I certainly didn't initially buy it for that.

[Deleted]

Insecurities seem to hold people back in life.

I think you might be onto something here.

[Deleted]

How about you OP, what are your insecurities?

Well, now that I actually am making myself think about the subject I cae to some insights myself.

At first I wanted to claim I don't have any insecurities. I am very confident, stoic even, and I'm oftenly just fearless in whatever I do.

But... I do have insecurities. I only ever worked for someone else once in my life and I really hated the power that person had over me when they fired me while I actually did a really good job.
So I guess I developed an insecurity right there when I started to think about my future/career and the fact that this can happen at any time, for whatever reason.

Since then, I am very driven to be "my own man" as much as possible and starting my own businesses.

[Exystredofar]

100% rejection can be fairly defeating.

This. I'm not afraid of rejection, I'm just tired of it.

[Deleted]

I'm a sociophobic. Why? Twelve years of constant mobbing will do that to you.

[Gamdwelf]

This. I'm not afraid of rejection, I'm just tired of it.

When you know the answer is no, why try?

[Kokolums]

For introverted people, insecurities might be a large thing that holds them back. For extroverts, being reckless might hold them back.

[matt4pack]

Society turns people this way. Unless you're one of the few that seems to luck out at everything it's hard not to become this.

[Azadina]

When you know the answer is no, why try?

That is just silly and negative. It's like saying "We all eventually die, so why even bother trying to live"