What is the most difficult decision you've made in your life?

[Arcanimus]

Whether or not to start drinking again.

I believe I made mine recently. I'm moving away from everyone and everything I've ever known to pursue professional (and hopefully financial) dreams of mine. I'm single, in my 20's, and have no children so one might think I have no real attachments so it must be easy, but it's not. Social media isn't as effective as a tool to keep people together as we like to pretend it is, and if I visit it will be just that...a visit. If I ever move back, it will be years later and everyone will be in a different stage in their life. In short, nothing will ever be the same, and that can be scary. However, I would rather do this than wonder for the next 50 years what would be if I made the plunge and moved 1000 miles from anything I ever knew by myself.

I wish I had an opportunity like this. The vast majority of my family is little more than leeches, and would rather sit at home collecting disability checks and living off the government than actually do anything productive with their lives, or are mentally unstable. The ones that aren't are tolerable, but I would love to be able to just up and sever ties like that. I have to build up a savings first before I can do something like that, first.

[Deleted]

Picking a job without knowing anything about any job.

Ha, my brother had the red edition so we just started over until we both had all three.

[Wildmoon]

I quit watching porn.

holy.. how did you do that?

[Dystemper]

Having to take my Mother off life support.

[Rudkobing]

To punch or not to punch a person that rightly deserved to be punched in the face.

[Templar 331]

Choosing not to go back to college after I lost my scholarship.

My GPA wasn't high enough and I didn't want to get a student loan just to fail the same class again. When my grandmother found out she called me crying and demanding I go strait back and get a student loan now! In her mind I had to go to college. There was just no other choice for me to her. I realized that I was 19 and I can choose what I wanted to do. I just simply said "no." It hurt because up until that point I tried to be a "good little boy" and do what I was told, but then I realized that she didn't have my best interests. She only wanted what looked right in her mind. It didn't matter what I wanted. My mom and stepdad didn't give a shit as long as I worked around their house. So for the next 3 months I was in a stupor. I had no direction, never learned how to think for myself, always just did what I was told. My stepdad finally helped me out by getting me a job at a hamburger factory.

[Kimpan]

Rehoming my puppy.

Me and my GF had worked out our jobs so we we're always at home or away for just a few hours. We lived in an appartment.
We broke up and she didnt want the puppy (Had to replace her at 8 months old) or anything to do with her. I worked 10hours days (12 with commute), couldnt afford paying for someone to watch her when I worked.

I didnt cry about losing my GF. But I cried for 2 weeks non stop because of the puppy. Changed my life forever.

[May90]

holy.. how did you do that?

I'll tell you how I did it: I stopped opening the sites.

Majick!

[Jtbrig7390]

I wouldn't say its the most difficult but the most life changing choice I can think of is me moving in with my gf.

That I am doing tomorrow

[Sylar Hao]

Confessing my homosexuality to my parents and friends 9 years ago.

I'm a very manly(?) (not sure if that's the right word in English) guy, so nobody suppected me to be because, although I haven't been in any relationship, they knew I met girls and whatnot.

My life changed drastically in a few days. I first said it to my closest friends and that was quite disappointing, all of them reacted very bad: I worked out with 2 of them on a daily basis at the gym and they both changed to a different gym the very next day because they wanted to avoid the locker room... I've seen them naked millions of times and nothing ever happened but suddenly it was a problem. Other friends didn't feel comfy with me around because suddenly they thought I wanted something more with them... And my best friend's girlfriend forced him to break up with me (not sure if that's the expression for not being friends anymore) because she was sure I was in love with him, and I loved him as a friend, but he is ugly as fuck tbh... and he was completely fine with me being gay but he proved to have no personality at all by agreeing with her.

At home, my mother noticed there was something wrong with me because it was quite obvious I was sad about something, so she asked me what happened and I decided to go ahead and tell my parents so I led her to the living room where my father was and told them what was going on. I knew my parents weren't very open-minded but I hoped they would react somewhat OK... I told them and explained what was going on with my friends.
My mother started crying like there was no tomorrow and started blaming herself for how I turned out, she fell in depression for a couple months, always crying. Then suddenly after that she accepted it in a strange way, like she wanted me to be her "daughter", she wanted me to go shopping with her (something she knows I hate), or gossip about people I don't give a fuck about (something she knows I hate A LOT) and stuff like that... and slowly she realized I was the same son I've always been, but my "issue" is just a taboo thing she avoids to talk about.
My father took it way worse. The only answer the said was "I'm very dissapointed at you". He kicked me out of the house for a couple days. The first day I slept in a bench in a park. And then my mother phoned me to say he was OK with me in the house, so I went back. But he didn't talk to me for more than a year after that. Then, one day he asked me if I wanted to go to a mental doctor to try to "fix" me, and I replied there was nothing wrong with me, I just like men. He didn't answered back. Now our relationship is completely neutral, like two strangers, when in family meetings we barely talk, if at all.

It was a very painful process accepting I lost everyone around me as a trade for being who I've always been. I even started having issues with accepting myself... but all of this made me quite stronger.

(edit: wow I didn't realize I wrote that much, sorry for the big post XD)
TL;DR: losing my friends and parents after coming out.

[Feali]

I'm actually standing in front of it now... To either take a year off and travel or stay and get an education now.

[Stormspellz]

take my mother off life support

[Deleted]

Confessing my homosexuality to my parents and friends 9 years ago.

TL;DR: losing my friends and parents after coming out.

That's rough, sorry to hear you had such a struggle with coming out. I wish people never made a big deal out of it, it should just be a simple "I'm gay" "ok cool, want a takeaway tonight?"



Most difficult decision I made, probably whether or not to make contact with my dad for the first time in my life. He added me on facebook 2 years ago and for about a year we never spoke to eachother, then he deactivated his facebook account, I think he was trying to make a point. I never knew what to say to him so I was biding my time, but clearly I took too long for him, seems fair - he gets 18 years to wait and I get 1 year. Helped me make my mind up though, my life is perfectly fine without him in it so him turning back makes my job easier

[THE Bigzoman]

There are a lot of fluff (and admittedly fun) threads here asking what our favorite food, vacation, book, game, villain, or whatever is. Those are all fine and good and I'll continue trolling along in them as I see fit, but I find I learn a lot more about people through the things that aren't shared quite as easily. Learning you prefer Dr. Pepper to Orange soda doesn't make me know how you tick, you know?

Well, what is the most difficult decision you've made in your life?

I believe I made mine recently. I'm moving away from everyone and everything I've ever known to pursue professional (and hopefully financial) dreams of mine. I'm single, in my 20's, and have no children so one might think I have no real attachments so it must be easy, but it's not. Social media isn't as effective as a tool to keep people together as we like to pretend it is, and if I visit it will be just that...a visit. If I ever move back, it will be years later and everyone will be in a different stage in their life. In short, nothing will ever be the same, and that can be scary. However, I would rather do this than wonder for the next 50 years what would be if I made the plunge and moved 1000 miles from anything I ever knew by myself.

It's hard, but I think it's right.

Care to share? I always find stories like this fascinating!

I think you can make this easier. You'll always have means of communication with them.

Is it more just the fear of being alone that's getting you all ruffled up?

[Jonnusthegreat]

Broke up with my fiance, who I'd been dating for 8 years. Happened 3 months ago

[hellinter201]

To beat or not to beat my meat.

[GennGreymane]

Genn that one is easy. Always Charmander! The other two were for wimps who're scared of Brock

gurl, I had no idea what I was gettin my self into back then. Bulba, and never looked back.

[THE Bigzoman]

Probably recently. I had a choice to either go to Flordia without job propsects, or to stay in Iowa for my first professional job post graduation already lined up. Pops REALLLLY wanted me to move down there, insisiting that everything would work out.

[Azadina]

TL;DR: losing my friends and parents after coming out.

From the post, it sure sounds like you were surrounded with horrible people. In your position, I'd be glad to never have to deal with any of them again, they don't deserve your attention in the slightest

[Deleted]

When I was 16, I was faced with a choice between two girls - one that I had been actively pursuing and another that was mainly just a friend but our mutual attraction grew out organically.

While I generally don't live in regret over past choices, that one sticks out to me because I still feel to this day, almost ten years later, that I made the wrong decision.

However, I'm currently happier than I've ever been, engaged to (another) woman so whatever COULD have happened doesn't matter. But I still think about that decision sometimes.