Brides are so scarce in China, some men are even considering divorced women

[Tennis]

http://qz.com/625780/brides-are-so-s...te-media-says/

Thanks to decades of government-dictated “one-child policy” and a parental preference for sons, male births in China have far outnumbered female births for many years. By 2020, the number of men of marriageable age is expected to outnumber women by 30 to 35 million, and men are already struggling to find brides.

The shortage of women of marriage age has reached “crisis” levels in China’s rural areas, state newspaper People’s Daily reported on Feb. 25, and apparently men are taking some very drastic measures.

Because of the gender imbalance, rural men have to marry earlier in order to seize the scarce resources. Even divorced women are viable options in the fight for marriage partners.

Some poor rural men are “ready to do anything to find a woman,” it goes on. Even women with “with physical disabilities or mental retardation” are being targeted by matchmakers, a rural lawyer tells the paper.

China’s twenty-somethings are being pressured into marriage at even earlier ages than their parents, by parents who could have only one child and are eager for grandchildren, and a government trying to offset a steadily aging population.

But these young marriages often fail, and China’s divorce rate has been growing steadily. More than one-third of all marriages end in divorce in many big cities. Still, divorced women in China continue to face serious social stigmas that men do not, and additional burdens. Communal property often goes to men when marriages fail in China, but any child to women, a responsibility men searching for brides are sometimes reluctant to accept.

How do you feel about this? Are you fine with a divorced woman?

[death87]

what the hell is wrong with marrying divorcees?

[Kathandira]

http://qz.com/625780/brides-are-so-s...te-media-says/



How do you feel about this? Are you fine with a divorced woman?

What a strange question. Yes, if a woman had been married in the past and we hit it off, her past marriage would be irrelevant to me. The only thing that would sour it, is if she had a child already. I am not interested in having children.

[Tennis]

what the hell is wrong with marrying divorcees?

I didn't say it was but it seems like in China this is an issue.

[Speedlance]

divorced = used up, I guess.

Same reason I won't date a woman with kid, I don't want to take care of another mans thrash.

[Breccia]

what the hell is wrong with marrying divorcees?

It must be a Chinese thing.

[Deleted]

What's wrong with a divorced woman? Something wrong about divorced men? Are we condemned to finish our life alone if we divorce?

[Deleted]

Tennisace threads are so obvious.

[Deleted]

divorced = used up, I guess.

Same reason I won't date a woman with kid, I don't want to take care of another mans thrash.

Another mans kids is thrash. I wish you to never have to divorce with your children's mother. Curious to know how you feel if your children's mother move on in her life with another man..... that man will have to take care of your thrash.

[ItachiZaku]

I have no problem lighting up the vagina's of Kate Beckinsale or Anna Kendrick.

[Independent voter]

I've heard that mail order brides are a big thing in China.

China has admitted the "one child policy" was a huge mistake, well as close to the communists ever get to admitting mistakes.

[Deleted]

just invade Japan, the women there do not want their men anyway

[Tennis]

Tennisace threads are so obvious.

Please post constructively. Don't derail my thread.

[Mifuyne]

just invade Japan, the women there do not want their men anyway

The Chinese are terrified of the Japanese.

[Deleted]

The Chinese are terrified of the Japanese.

They dont like each other, that's for sure. Terrified? I don't think so.

Anyway, if Japanese women there do not want their men, the idea of being with a Chinese man is even worst.

[Deleted]

what the hell is wrong with marrying divorcees?

Heck I wouldn't tell anyone to marry a divorcee, neither men nor women. You're obviously dealing with someone who's making terrible decisions, they've already managed to wreck one marriage for one reason or another so getting involved with them is likely to turn out the same for you.

[Katie N]

Heck I wouldn't tell anyone to marry a divorcee, neither men nor women. You're obviously dealing with someone who's making terrible decisions, they've already managed to wreck one marriage for one reason or another so getting involved with them is likely to turn out the same for you.

How if the other is the one who cause it to fall apart?

[Deleted]

How if the other is the one who cause it to fall apart?

Because you were still convinced that person was a good choice at marrying, it's similar to single parents really. Someone like that has proven to be terrible at decision making and evaluation of their choices. Given the laws in some countries one would actually expose themselves to a hell of a lot of economic dangers to the point where they might even be declared retroactively partly responsible for past mistakes of their partner.

[Theodarzna]

Generally I've heard that divorced women and or women with kids are kind of a red flag, but I don't think its UBER taboo in America right now. Though I think in general marriage is dissolving away as a cultural force in the United States.

[Katie N]

Because you were still convinced that person was a good choice at marrying, it's similar to single parents really. Someone like that has proven to be terrible at decision making and evaluation of their choices. Given the laws in some countries one would actually expose themselves to a hell of a lot of economic dangers to the point where they might even be declared retroactively partly responsible for past mistakes of their partner.

You sound paranoid, you can't see into the future and know what will happen few years forward.