Unintentionally chatted up a Transgender

[dragonvalor]

Genuine dilemma

I recently got chatting to a lovely young man online and began flirting with each other, all was well and we even discussed meeting up. Unfortunately he recently dropped the bombshell that he's a Transgender Man (F2M) and is in the very early stages of transition. Now I have no issue with transgender individuals but I have zero attraction towards them, upon discovering he was trans my attractions towards him immediately vanished. He's a lovely person but without a physical attraction now there's zero chance of romance. How do I approach the subject? I don't want to ignore them as that's nasty but neither do I wish to hurt them

[Spectral]

It's a weird time we live in when "you don't have the parts I'm attracted to" isn't sufficient.

[EternalBany]

Why wont you date him and fuck him?
Are you racist?

[I Push Buttons]

Say no thanks, the "relationship" started under false pretenses.

[Adarian]

freindzone them, the sooner the better.

[Nirya]

If you can't see yourself working past it then the only option is telling them that it won't work out.

I've been in a similar situation when I was in thailand and ended up with what I thought was a really cute girl but the cute girl turned out to be a ladyboy. They understood why I didn't want to continue.

[Deleted]

It's a weird time we live in when "you don't have the parts I'm attracted to" isn't sufficient.

It is sufficient.

[Nelaphim-EX]

Why wont you date him and fuck him?
Are you racist?

If you had to apply a label, it would be transphobic or... some outlier of sexist.

Also, there is nothing wrong with not have a potentially sexual interest in an individual who does not have the proper sexual organs to meet your desires in a partner. You should try remaining friends, if that is an option, however.

[xskarma]

This is a tenous subject at best, and since the OP won't be returning to talk about the subject I'm going to close this thread here.



CLOSED.