A contract signed after the fact of pregnancy is not a solution, since that's exactly when the conflict of interests might appear. What would work is the mandatory contract signed before the pregnancy occurred, on what the course of action of each person is in case of pregnancy. The problems with this are:
1. It is still not clear what to do if such a contract wasn't signed.
2. Same problem as with mandatory written sexual consent: compromises trust in the relationship, makes it less intimate, etc.
The current system can't be exploited to the benefit of one of the sides, since, in case of the childbirth, both sides are responsible for raising it. In your system, there is a case in which men can opt out and women can't, hence leaving a lot of room for exploiting it.
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Really, like I've said many times, the problem is non-existent for responsible individuals, who take these things seriously. These matters are only relevant to immature people who play around and have fun, not thinking about the consequences. It is not nearly as big of a deal as people make it look; just accept that sex = possibility of children, and be ready to face this possibility if you go for it. Not a rocket science.
It is the same as consenting to POSSIBLE parenthood, yes.
Sex, while fun, is ultimately a biological function of our bodies designed to ensure procreation of our species.
Apply/use said function and be aware of the consequences.
Yes, modern medicine gave us the possibility of aborting pregnancies and various contraceptives to minimize the "risk" of pregnancy/abort pregnancy but there is always a remaining risk that a child is the result of your romantic encounter.
This is also why I would not whore around lightly and only make love to a person I intend to be with for a long time.
Its perfectly fair a woman makes the decisions she does, because she and she alone has the hell of carrying the pregnancy to term or the hell of getting an abortion. She generally will also be the one taking care of the child for its life in this situation. All the guy has to do is pay 1/2, but so does she.
So to recap:
If a woman gets pregnant...
The woman:
- either has to get a horrible surgery for an abortion OR go through hell for 9 months
- raise the kid
- pay 1/2
The man:
- pay 1/2
Seems to me the level of effort required is commiserate with amount of responsibility. The guy gets off lucky.
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Of course it should be done after the fact, because then is when the problem occurs. There isn't any conflict of interest that i can see here, no one here has any interest here in delaying anything. It even promotes good incentives like telling the father that he is becoming a father, witch in turn helps out on the baby hatch problem. The father would want to know that he is becoming a father, the mother would want to tell the father as soon as possible so she can decide what she wants to do. I see no problem here.
This problem has nothing to do with "responsible individuals", as some posters have shown here that it is perfectly okay to call males who didn't want to become a parent "deadbeats" but females who didn't want it are seen as "responsible". This is about the right to be able to plan your own offspring, to start a family with whom you want to.
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That is saying that abortions are not needed, she should just be responsible for having sex.
To be fair, sometimes it does. I've read stories of people getting $200k a year and having to pay $100k for child support for 10+ years. Sounds pretty ridiculous, and the mother and the child definitely don't need THAT much to be well off.
These are the problems of execution though, not of the system itself.
We pay about 250 dollars a month until the kid is 18.
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Yes because females usually wants a baby in their belly And they can definately stop a man from cuming inside her, anytime. It's not like it's a fucking gamble from the start for them, at all.
Nobody said that and that is not what they are saying. Just fucking stop. You sound like a child that didn't get what that they wanted for Xmas.
Its simple, take precautions as a man to not knock a woman up and know if you do have a sex and even with the proper precautions, it may still VERY RARELY happen anyway. There are inherent risks with EVERYTHING in life. What you don't get to do, is participate in the act of reproduction and have 0 responsibility if reproduction happens.
Grow the fuck up.
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This isn't how contracts work. You sign a contract when you want to make sure that both sides respect their promises. If no promises have been given before pregnancy, then it is a bit late to work them out when it happened, don't you think? What if the sides don't agree on the terms of contract, like the woman wants to give birth to the child and raise it together, while the man doesn't want the child? It will go nowhere.
If you have a partner who you trust and want to raise children with, and they want the same, then there is no problem. If you have different desires, one of you being irresponsible and seeking the easy way out - then the other one shouldn't suffer for that and have to take the entire burden on themselves.
No, that is saying that her choosing to not go for abortion is something both partners should be willing to accept.
I don't know. As I understand, in the US these numbers are up to the judge to establish. And the judges can be biased sometimes.