First and foremost, I want to apologize if this post gets a little ranty. I could summarize it but I feel doing so would make the nuance of the situation get lost. I'm gonna cut it down as much as possible.
So, started dating this girl recently. She's pretty cool. Our chemistry isn't amazing but it's not bad and I've been out of the dating game for about 8 months so I thought I'd give it a shot since I knew for a while that she had a crush on me. Recently though I feel like we're on the verge of breaking up and I kinda want some insight on how to proceed.
So, Wednesday I decided to surprise her at work (we work together but I wasn't working that night) because I hadn't seen her since Sunday and I wouldn't see her until next Sunday otherwise. She was super excited to see me and we went out for ice cream afterwards and had a pretty good time. I kissed her good night and left. She texts me later talking about how amazing it was and all that jazz. Now, she's enlisting into the air force so that Thursday and Friday she's gone to MEPS to enlist. She makes it in and I congratulate her. She doesn't text me back that day but I figured she's busy with the whole thing so I don't think much of it.
I text her the next day and she seems kinda subdued. She's no longer calling me pet names and her texts are pretty matter of fact. She says she's cranky so I just write it off and figure that I'll let her do her thing and we'll talk tomorrow since we work together on Sunday. Sunday comes and it's pretty cool. At least as far as work goes. We get off at the same time and I walk her to her car and we talk for a bit. We had made plans to hang out on Monday but she tells me that she's now going to the movies with her sister on Monday and that she can't hang. So, I say we can just chill on Tuesday. She agrees but doesn't seem too excited about the idea. She says that she's just tired so I tell her good night and I leave.
I text her on Monday and once again she's very subdued with her texts. I was busy on Monday so I just left it be until that night when I tried to call her to confirm our plans for Tuesday. She doesn't answer, so I text her and she now says that she has to meet with her recruiter the next day. I'm starting to think that she is just losing interest, but I ask her if she wants to grab a bite to eat afterwards instead. She says "Yeah probably" which is once again pretty unenthusiastic. I text her to give me a ballpark estimate of when she'll be free so I could get my work done beforehand and she doesn't text back.
At this point I'm pretty annoyed because I feel like she doesn't care and I now am acting like I care too much even though I don't so I plan on dumping her today. She texts me this morning about how she feels super sick and she can't hang out at all. From all the reluctance I've gotten from her I feel like this is bullshit but I can't really call her on it so I tell her to feel better. I tell my mom about all this because she knows the girl and she gives me a different perspective and proposes that perhaps it's all coincidences and she does care.
So, I am now conflicted. I work with this girl and she's already told everyone at work that we're dating so I can't get a clean break. I kinda like her but the chemistry has been a little off lately and I don't want to waste anymore time on her if she's not interested, but now I'm not entirely sure that she isn't interested anymore. I was planning on texting her tomorrow and seeing if she's feeling better and if she is, if she's working tomorrow. Then, I'd ask her in person how she feels, but I wonder if its even worth it.
So, I have three questions for you guys. 1. Do you guys feel like she's actually lost interest or she's actually just been really busy? 2. If you do think she's lost interest should I just text her tomorrow and end it or approach her in person and see what's really up? 3. If we do break up, how do you propose I keep it so that we can maintain a healthy work relationship?