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This isn't exactly equivalent. In the subject of the topic a cheating woman is committing paternity fraud. In your examples the guy cheating in commits no such thing and the one committing wrongdoing that should (and in this case is) criminalized is also the woman. And whether men cheat more or not is inconsequential, their cheating does not result in a lifelong fraud that fucks them over financially, emotionally (should they eventually find out), legally (if they find out after some years they are still legally bound to the child of another man anyway) and may fuck them over in terms of actually procreating and continuing their genes, which to some people is important because instinct and what not (if they don't find out and settle for that one child they think is theirs). Again, cheating isn't the issue, it's only the cause of the issue.
Why would I care about what Xarim wants? It is more severe though and that's why murder is a crime, while paternity fraud is not (despite other types of fraud, even less severe ones, being criminalized as well).
Except, Tim was the one who took care of a child for 10 years, this wasnt Bob i was talking about.
What kind of nonsense is this?? This is about males wanting to be sure that it is their offspring without having to spring through hoops.Should new fathers (biological ones!) be monitored so they don't cheat because let's face it, having a baby sucks all life and joy away which leads him to sleep with other women, risking the family breaking up, or if they do stay together, the death of trust? Compulsory paternity tests are like saying "we don't trust you", like having fathers watched in cheat-prevention would do*
If you think there is a high chance that a woman is going to screw you over, I feel sorry for you, honestly.
Then ask it like this!?Regarding the last sentence, GoblinP wrote "'fathers'" and I was inquiring into whether he meant a biological father who ran away and ceased all contact when the child was 5 or whatever, or a man who was believed to be the father, but wasn't.
The problem here is that as a male i have no choice other then not having sex if i do not want to become a parent, if i would say that this should go for a woman to that means that im sexist. What im getting at is, the ones you call "deadbeat dads" are the same sort of people that would have gotten an abortion if they could, but they cant. Society is coming down a lot harder on males that do not want to become parents to the point that we put them in jail for not "owning up" to "their" responsibilities.Absolutely wrong! A man who doesn't want to have children gains a lot more acceptance than a woman saying the same thing. You see, society wants children, they are encouraged. Merely 50 years ago, no one would ask you why you didn't have children (women, that is). As a woman, I'm expected to love children, to want children, to desire them, that life finally gains purpose when they pop out. To love not only mine, but other people's children. That a natural birth is wonderful and beautiful and the pain absolutely worth it, even the anal ruptures, that breastfeeding is so amazing and giving formulae is bascially child abuse. That I should be home, at least 1 year, and that spending 6 hours playing with the baby is so much better than being at work. That when it cries you don't want to become deaf but instead try to understand the little one ^^ Patience, love, understanding, selfsacrifice. Wanting to sleep 8 hours in a go, or to clean the house, or to shower - What kind of monster am I?! Poopy diapers, pee on your hand, so cute <3
I do get that people look weird at people who do not want children as it is our primary directive (biologically speaking), but males face these same problems. I think the big difference is that the males have pretty much no say in it, and to top it off, have no idea if the child is theirs. Of course this would not really be needed with most pregnancies, but you can't deny that it is not needed at all. This isn't unheard off. Just like with a screening on a genetic defect is not needed most off the time, we still do screen for genetic defects at birth to save the ones who do have it the trouble of having to find it out at a later date.There have been interviews with women choosing a childless life and they still have to say "oh, but I do like children, just don't want them". If you're a woman and you don't want children in today's society (Norway), you're anomaly, a selfish shit, unfeminine and that there is something wrong with you. If you divorce the man and he has custody, you're a freak. You even have to be 25 before you can choose sterilisation. What I'm getting at, there is no applause if you as a woman choose to have children despite not wanting them, people have decided that 95 % of all women want children and you're an outcast if you opt out. I have a child, and I loathe my new life. Its presence makes me depressed but I can't admit that, I'm a failure for thinking so. I'm supposed to be so happy ^^ I, as a married woman, now with a child, life is complete <3 No, not before grandchildren come^^
*Yes, it's a shitty example. Just try to understand where I'm coming from
And yes, your example is really shitty.
Not what was talked about there. The topic is the child of the guy he has with another woman. The guy's partner has absolutely no obligation towards that child in that case, even if they all live together in some fucked up take on menage a trois. Versus a situation with switched genders when they actually raise it together, where the guy doesn't know it's not his. With the difference of it being that's it literally impossible to falsely convince the guy's partner the child is hers in situation A.
And yet in the past it's been childless men who have been taxed because of it in various places.
If a man wants to know, he can take the test, not sure how anything you said changes this
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should be what? he should be free to ask for the test and should not be denied the test if he asks for it, i agree
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that is fine with me as well, thanks!
if its the law that he can ask for and receive a test, she has no legal reason for a shitstorm, this changes nothing
that's like saying if a buyer doesn't requests to read the fine print that law states he can ask to do because he trusts the complany, because the company might starts a shitstorm and dupes the buyer into purchasing an item without ever reading the fine print?
sorry, but ask to read the fine print if you wish to do so, it's your right to ask to read it if you wish to read it! no one should be made to read it, however, if they do not wish to
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In some areas it's the law the man can ask and receive, but the woman also can block it. The shitstorm isn't legal anyway. Women have an alergic reaction to the idea of paternity test being performed on their child even if they approve of it being a thing in general, vide this thread. So if a man doesn't ask because of it and because he trusts his partner, then what, it's OK he's victim to paternity fraud? Other forms of fraud are actually criminalized, despite the victim more often than not falling for it because they trusted the wrong person.
then i agree, the woman should not be able to block it, but it should not be mandatory, only if the father wishes it or the courts need it
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oh i understand you now, thanks
i dont see it as suspicion, i see it as a preference
the man prefers to only raise a child he knows is his
the only way to know is to test
so he should be able to ask for the test and not be denied
some men dont have this preference and should not be forced to have the test done if they dont wish to
a) even without looking at the genetic makeup of the parents, the odds of a child having a genetic defect is significantly higher than 0.01%. Including the parents, who may be asymptomatic carriers of what may be passed on as a genetic defect, the issue becomes a very real possibility.
b) raising a child with a genetic defect often leads to a heavy burden of emotional/financial/<insert your own -al descriptor> on the parents.
c) there's a reason why a woman doesn't need to be suspicious if the child is theirs. If I need to explain this to you, any further discussion is pointless.
Voted no, because I really don't think the majority of women who want kids are actively cheating on their significant other like that. In most cases, its wasted money. If your relation ship is in ta situation you think the kid might not be yours, then you need to take care of that, not the government.