Originally Posted by
DSRilk
I met my wife in college many decades ago. I do, however, know a great number of WOMEN that are themselves trying to meet people at work for the very reasons I describe. But yes, in a crude way, that's what it comes down to - we are social creatures, and one of the most fundamental drives for (virtually) ALL of us is sex. The idea that we should all just be nothing more than cogs in the machine while at work is absurd to me. If someone asks you out at work, how big a deal is it to simply say "I'm not interested" or "I prefer to keep my personal life at home" or something equivalent. The reality is that the vast majority of us take our personal lives with us to work. We share stories about our kids while waiting for everyone to get on conference calls. We become good friends with people at work. We find gaming buddies, racquetball partners, and such at work. If someone says "no thanks," you don't bring it up again. But somehow the idea that you ask a co-worker if they're interested in having a drink with you... that's harassment? To me, harassment starts once you pester me with personal stuff after I've asked you to stop. No matter what it is.