If your spouse were paralyzed from the neck down would you allow them a sexual surrogate and if you would but they wouldn't would you divorce?
If it was me I would let her provided she were discreet about it if we had kids and they at least became adults. If I married and she wouldn't, I don't to honor the marriage but before we got married she said no if that happened it be something I'd consider and maybe not get married.
What about you would you cheat anyway and carry the lie to prospect them or not even ask?