If the girl consents, drunk or not, she consents. Alcohol doesn't magically make you unable to make any rational decisions.
Ask yourselves this: If you're 100% straight, do you bang gay guys because you're drunk? Probably not, because no matter how drunk you are, you're not going to be magically attracted to men.
Same logic goes for the gay users here. Are you going to suddenly get the urge to sleep with the opposite sex after X amounts of shots? Probably not, because no matter how drunk you are, you're rational enough to not do it.
Even as a straight guy, I'm not going to sleep with a woman i'm not attracted to. As a married guy, I'm more than capable of not sleeping with other women when I'm out drinking during a business trip.
Edit: Also, Black out does NOT equal pass out. Anyone who's ever done some hard drinking has had moments where they can't remember what exactly happened during a certain time period. Maybe you looked at your phone the next morning and saw you apparently were texting your ex but you don't remember any of it? That's blacking out.
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What if both parties are just as drunk, are both just as willing, and afterwards one of them regrets what they did and starts claiming rape and so on? Weren't they both just as scumbaggy and just as much taking advantage of each other?
Or does regretting what you did wipe all responsibility and accountability away.
and to the people who keep chanting that black out=passed out, explain this; I had a friend growing up who ended up having a very extensive drug problem. He had a black out of 3 weeks, 3 weeks that one day he just kind of started asking questions confused about where he was. Last thing he actually remembered was like 3 weeks prior. You are telling me that in those 3 weeks that we were actively hanging out/talking etc, he was actually pass out the entire time?
Were we in some weird twilight zone meets weekend at bernies?
So, the girl should be held accountable if the boy has been drunk?
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You can just as well argue that he was really drunk and only realized what he had done the next day when he sent those messages.
Thus you can use them as "proof" that he was unable to consent and according to the girl's testimony she came onto him.
I can clear up all the confusion for you.
If the girl is drunk, even if she gives consent at the time- you are at risk.
She could claim the next day that she didn't give consent and you took advantage of her when she was drunk.
If, at that point, you can't prove she gave consent- you are facing a trial (and who knows which way that will go).
Even if you can prove she gave consent, she can still claim that she was soooooo drunk that she didn't even know where she was and you are still facing a trail.
There. I cleared up all this "great confusion" in four simple sentences for you.
You keep trying to push this narrative (while making walls of projections and other fallacies - vide your first post - that get longer and longer with each thread), but this isn't how consent works. As long as a person is capable of giving valid consent, which applies to most levels of inebriation, their consent is well, valid. It is not reliant on "valider" consent, or the idea of what it would be, in another situation. Trying to make it so would result in legal nonsense in general, and would be godawful from procedural perspective.
What? Ignorance of the law is not an excuse for breaking it (if he did). You talk about other people not rooting their arguments in logic (meanwhile: "kids will be kids, nothing can be done about it, even if they are late teens, let's give them a free pass") or what have you and yet you're constantly not rooting your own in the legal reality of the world. Which is sort of relevant to the topic of crime. More so than your emotions (as per a later post).
Unless they are a teen. Then assume mere ignorance and brush it all under the carpet.
Fascinating. Especially in context of the previous few paragraphs.
Out of curiosity, does "people who disagree with my narrative that has no basis in the law are devoid of empathy" count as a support of a notion? I won't aim for logic, reason or critical analysis with this one, but I can still try with support thing.
Then how is the girl partially responsible again?
You actually said vapid.
Most women are willing to have sex with a drunk man. Most women are rapists. Teach women not to rape.
Well, I'm certainly glad that you're able to see the world through his eyes. Thank the fucking heavens for your psychic powers!
Tit.
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You people will bend this any way to ruin his life over one regretted night.
Why did this shit have to go public? They were both drunk. He apologised profusely. What else can he do now? They should have talked it out either 1-on-1 or with their parents instead blowing this through hell and high water.
So, whats sad about this is that both parties were drunk.... sigh, but in these cases its ALWAYS going to be the guys fault, because that's how society treats it, because society thinks that there must be someone to blame. If she was PASSED OUT i.e. unconscious, and he had sex with an unconscious person, then yeah, that's obviously bad. But if they were both drunk talking to each other, how would either be able to assess the situation.
Grey area here, if you cannot consent to sex while drunk, how can either party be at fault, since both were under the influence?
Also, when i had to sit through "sexual assault classes" in the Military, the basic rule was, if you're both loaded, and you wake up next to each other, who ever calls the cops first is the victim.... Pretty sad considering this completely fucks up peoples lives.
Moral of the story, don't drink, because in today's society, people will do anything to fuck you over.
That awkward moment when she was screaming yes but in the morning it's rape.
Dumb arguments.
Simply not having sex will always be the right answer.
What amuses me most about situations like this is when people say "oh, women shouldn't have to worry about what may happen to them when they're drunk", yet no one says that about guys? What about all the men and women who get busted for drinking and driving, or parking lot fights. When guys get the shit kicked out of them, its a "suck it" and boys will be boys situation (unless life threatening). How many guys get raped while drunk? yet police usually say "nah, that didn't happen", yet women get 100% of the attention in situations like this, how many girls have taken advantage of drunk guys? yet people say "oh, well you probably enjoyed it", maybe they did, but shouldn't the same standard be applied to women? Shit is so one sided its disgusting.