Beware of dates who are just in it for a free meal.

[Mister Cheese]

http://nypost.com/2017/08/30/beware-...r-a-free-meal/

They call it "Foodie calls". Cringy way to refer to this kind of behavior but I've had this shit happen to me before. It's frustrating. And it's one of the reasons I've stopped dating.

When Olivia Balsinger first moved to New York after graduating college in 2014, she wanted to experience Manhattan “Sex and the City”-style. Like many millennials working in entry-level office gigs, however, she was limited by a shoestring budget.

“I was in a job that barely paid my rent,” Balsinger, now 24 and living in the East Village, tells The Post.

Going to nice restaurants was out of the question. “I barely had enough money to go to a nice grocery store,” she says.

Rather than scrape by on bargain rice and beans, Balsinger decided to seriously try a friend’s humorous suggestion: Meet guys on Tinder for the sole purpose of scoring free meals.

Soon, Balsinger was meeting men up to twice a week for nourishment-driven dates at pricey bars and restaurants, such as the Roof at Park South in Kips Bay.

“You want to enjoy the city, but you don’t really want to waste two hours of your paycheck on eating out,” she says. “So it’s pretty easy to kind of just say yes if someone’s offering to take you out.”

She recalls one evening when a 30-something European man squired her to celeb-studded seafood spot Catch in the Meatpacking District, where dishes such as truffle sashimi cost $29.

Balsinger admits she had zero attraction to her date. She chose him merely because he seemed successful and “lonely,” two factors suggesting he’d be happy to pay for her company.

“I can only imagine what the cost was — probably, like, a month of pay from my job,” she says of the five-course meal she savored that night.

When the bill came, she coyly fumbled for her clutch in a feigned attempt to pay for her half of the meal. As expected, her date swept in and took care of the tab.

Now I know this has probably been going on for the last 100 years but below the article state why this kind of behavior is on the rise.

With the rise of dating apps, it’s never been easier to order up a foodie call. According to millennial survey app Winq, in a survey exclusive to The Post, 44 percent of young women have swiped right on a date “because why not; it’s a free meal” — even if they weren’t attracted to the person.

“New York is its own ball game — there is an ‘impress’ factor that guys think they have to live up to,” Balsinger says. “They want to talk to a pretty girl. Girls are offering their time and conversation.”

For any singles worried about being used for a meal ticket, Balsinger says to suggest a low-cost date such as hanging out in Central Park — and observing how matches react.

“If [your match] says no to a simple activity, that’s a red flag,” she says. “Some of my best dates have involved a bottle of wine from Duane Reade.”

Not gonna say if this may or may not be a gendered issue. I've had ex friends who are men who have stolen money from me by saying they don't have any at a resturant. But chivalry is far from dead if this is happening. Another way for people to scam you out of your money and you get no return on your time or investment in a relationship you may be hoping to start.

[Deleted]

that's what happens when the 1% own all the wealth under late stage capitalism.

people eat their own and ressort to all kinds of tricks to survive.

or maybe you're just not the ladies type idk. never happened to me.

[Sunseeker]

lol, half my dates when I was younger were just an excuse to have company when I wanted to go out for more than a burger.

They get a free meal out of it? Who fuckin cares.

Also, isn't this article basically: "Grab a coffee first."

[Acidbaron]

Well equality between genders means both can be rather terrible people.

Not sure how much you actually lose out and not sure how often this happens. Online dating is a big miss chance with a small hit chance anyway and it's not like disney and all other media houses completely fuck our entire generation over as in what to expect of your "significant other". I would see say dating as having fun, if you aren't having fun you can always walk out.

Also you know what kind of women they are when they sell their companion ship for money. Even if it's a meal ladies, it's still whorish behavior

[Mistame]

lol, half my dates when I was younger were just an excuse to have company when I wanted to go out for more than a burger.

They get a free meal out of it? Who fuckin cares.

Also, isn't this article basically: "Grab a coffee first."

Basically how I see it. Hell, if a chic wants to get a free meal, all she's gotta do is message me and say, "Buy me dinner". To me, it's worth the cash just to meet and hang out with someone new during dinner. And if she wants some extra cash, well, there's that option, too.

[GennGreymane]

Beware of those who think they deserve a relationship, sex, or a second date.

[Fencers]

Lonely and desperate dudes have existed since forever. At the end of the day a lot of dudes just want to get to the P in V. Nothing will ever change about this regardless of apps, whatchacallems or city.

Good luck!

[gyrados]

or u know spend that money on an escort i mean if its sex u want and all i mean either way u paying for it

[Rudkobing]

Olivia Balsinger

*cough*whore*cough*

Foodie calls

It seems like they would come up with a better name than that.

/shrug

[Kuntantee]

Prostitutes have way more dignity than these types.

[Antius]

Suggest going in halves with her. If you don't have much money then go for coffee or a walk or hike or something. If a chick is really into you she will be extremely flexible and agreeable.

And for the love of god stop going into a situation involving a stranger with concrete expectations. Dinner even if you paid for it doesn't guarantee a damned thing, not even sex.

[Deleted]

And this is why men become rapists.

[Tijuana]

http://nypost.com/2017/08/30/beware-...r-a-free-meal/

They call it "Foodie calls". Cringy way to refer to this kind of behavior but I've had this shit happen to me before. It's frustrating. And it's one of the reasons I've stopped dating.



Now I know this has probably been going on for the last 100 years but below the article state why this kind of behavior is on the rise.





Not gonna say if this may or may not be a gendered issue. I've had ex friends who are men who have stolen money from me by saying they don't have any at a resturant. But chivalry is far from dead if this is happening. Another way for people to scam you out of your money and you get no return on your time or investment in a relationship you may be hoping to start.

This is why dating sites that don't show photos are bullshit.

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And this is why men rape.

No, it's not. You speak for no one but yourself. How disgusting can a human be....

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Prostitutes have way more dignity than these types.

Yeah, at least they are honest, right?

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Leykis 101: never spend more than 40 dollars on a date.

This is why you make the first meeting be for coffee, so you can find out if they gave you real photos before you are sat at a table with them, and stuck with the tab.

[Daedius]

But I'm starvin'!

[Independent voter]

Meh, if she's a good conversationalist so what? Better than eating alone.

[Torrasque]

If I got back into dating, I honestly wouldn't mind if what they truly after was a free meal and a generally fun event before or after such. However, this is mostly because I have plenty of disposable income that I could simply hurl at such ventures... if I desired as such.

[Deleted]

if you cannot pay your own Meal dont bother wasting my Time

easy as that

[Deleted]

No, it's not. You speak for no one but yourself. How disgusting can a human be....

Scenario:
Nerdy guy gets used only for his money so bitches can get free meals.
Eventually gets so fed up with being used instead of laid that he starts to do the laying.

Doesnt take a keyboard psychiatrist to figure that basic psychology out. You have people killing over clondike bars and you want to discuss the impossibility of being used for meals as a motive to start raping?

[Deleted]

http://nypost.com/2017/08/30/beware-...r-a-free-meal/

They call it "Foodie calls". Cringy way to refer to this kind of behavior but I've had this shit happen to me before. It's frustrating. And it's one of the reasons I've stopped dating.



Now I know this has probably been going on for the last 100 years but below the article state why this kind of behavior is on the rise.





Not gonna say if this may or may not be a gendered issue. I've had ex friends who are men who have stolen money from me by saying they don't have any at a resturant. But chivalry is far from dead if this is happening. Another way for people to scam you out of your money and you get no return on your time or investment in a relationship you may be hoping to start.

Here's how to avoid it: never take women out to dinner. Or only when you are already in a relationship. Also don't pay for them. Ever.

[Dr Assbandit]

Nerdy guy gets used only for his money so bitches can get free meals.
Eventually gets so fed up with being used instead of laid that he starts to do the laying.
Doesnt take a keyboard psychiatrist to figure that basic psychology out.

Except that even keyboard psychiatrists wouldn't make a comment so ridiculously stupid with absolutely no merit to it. You're projecting what you "think" a person in that position would do and it actually says a lot about you rather than the imaginary nerdy dude from your silly hypothetical example.