Originally Posted by
Yvaelle
My perspective on the matter is that my girlfriend's awesome - she's stable, smart, rational, funny, she good at video games, has the same taste in music, has read/watched even more sci-fi than I have, is a great cook, has a great smile and laugh, and has a high libido. Plus, she's ~9 years older than me, and I prefer older women.
Sex and arousal is mostly in your head to begin with, if you are having sex correctly it's fun regardless of who your partner is - so really - apart from maintaining appearances to vain appearance-obsessed people - all of the above matters more than extra body fat.