Originally Posted by
Jilor
I think it's kind of funny to say you tend to avoid transgender people in real life. Ok, well, that's a great thought... but there's a lot more of us than people seem to think. The original estimate was 0.3% and more recent estimates has it closer to 0.6%. In other words, in a statistically perfect world, six out of every thousand unique individuals you encounter are transgender. We work as many different professions and many of us pass perfectly well. In fact, since I have gone full time, not once have I been misgendered. And you have no way of preparing for me, because I'm a flight attendant. Even worse for you, we have a captain who is transgender and nearly every major airline that operates flights anywhere in the US does as well (I should know, I'm friends with many of them). Add to that that quite a number of flight attendants fall in the LGBT categories as it is a generally more accepting culture and generally the punishment for mistreating us on a plane is a felony. And yes, that includes misgendering us anything that can affect the duties of a flight attendant is punishable by up to 20 years of prison and fines of up to $250,000 and the first amendment won't protect you from that federal code (Title 49).
However, I know (or am aware of) transgender people in many other professions too including healthcare, teachers, retail, lawyers, TV, movies and much more. There are pretty solid chances you have interacted with a transgender person. The numbers vary a bit, but the estimate is you will INTERACT with (not just pass by) somewhere around 80,000-100,000 unique people in your life time. Of course, then you factor it's likely more if you live in a big city and possibly less if you live in a small town. How much you travel, how social you are, how many places you go where you may interact with more unique people than average, etc. Regardless, unless you live in the middle of nowhere and never interact with people, it's a pretty solid bet you have interacted with a transgender person whom you didn't know was transgender. And unless you wish to avoid ever flying anywhere, shopping anywhere or using healthcare, it's pretty hard to just blanket avoid transgender people.
For the record, I'm not mad at you or anything. I get you have a different opinion and I really don't mind. My great-grandmother was a really good woman in life and I never saw her mistreat anyone, but she was raised during a time where the 'n*****' was just what small town white people used. So, of course, up until her passing, it would still slip. It wasn't all the time, but it was still there. I don't know how old you are, but it's just possible your beliefs are so heavily ingrained that they are likely to never change. Instead, I would just ask you to think like this... if you are a good person, why would you want to mistreat another person? Maybe you don't understand their life and that's fine. But just because I've never read the Quran or been to South America doesn't mean I will treat Muslims and people from Brazil poorly. I'm sure they use titles or words I'm unfamiliar with, but that doesn't affect my life and to pretend like treating them with respect does is rather a silly notion. If you are on your own time, then just walk away. If you're at work and feel uncomfortable, you can always ask another worker to help rather than mistreat them. I am not in the force bakers to bake cakes group. Just that I'd rather you ask for assistance from a co-worker than to say rude or hateful things. Because surely it takes more time to insult someone (even if you don't see it as that) than it does if you simply completed your business and moved on. We don't have to be best friends, it's just simple logistics that I serve my customers and move on, regardless what weird or annoying thing they may be doing. Where as, if I stopped and started giving a customer a hard time, more people will be involved and it's just not worth the hassle.
It's really ok to just move through life and let others do the same.