When in doubt, use the Rock Test.
When in doubt, use the Rock Test.
Generally speaking sexual harassment is when one party can't say no without consequences.
Boss/subordinate for example. Or if the offender doesn't take no for an answer.
Challenge Mode : Play WoW like my disability has me play:
You will need two people, Brian MUST use the mouse for movement/looking and John MUST use the keyboard for casting, attacking, healing etc.
Briand and John share the same goal, same intentions - but they can't talk to each other, however they can react to each other's in game activities.
Now see how far Brian and John get in WoW.
When the person trying to "flirt" won't take no for an answer and keeps trying.
This isn't a hard thing to grasp for functioning adults. It's only a problem for the kiss less forever alones that flood the internet that have 0 experience and people with legit mental problems that prevent them from picking up on social cues.
Last edited by Dug; 2017-10-19 at 06:42 PM.
If your a Guy being flirted on by a girl, Never. But the other way around seems to be a problem for Women so I have no clue there. Most men don't care about being "flirted" on.
The thread topic is about harassment. All I was saying about your specific example is that it wasn't flirting. Past that I made no assessment on it being harassment, so there was no need to respond to an assessment I didn't make to clarify.
I didn't say I wouldn't do it. I said it was aggressive, not blunt. Flirting is not aggressive, its playful.
Found it, SNL skit with Tom Brady about sexual harassment:
https://www.liveleak.com/view?i=f76_1323277426
Last edited by Azmoden; 2017-10-19 at 07:13 PM.
"That shit went down faster than a gold digger on a dying rich dude".
Wait wait wait. Don't just say I'm putting words in your mouth. I said "it's harassment when the woman decides it is harassment" to which you responded with "duh, of course the victim of harassment decides when it is harassment".
So you are equating woman to victim. Otherwise you would have replied with something like, "no, if the man is the one being harassed, he decides if it is harassment".
We were discussing harassment. People said that in order for it to be harassment it has to be unwanted and persistent. I provided an example of something being said to a woman, just one single sentence, once. And people said it would be harassment. Even though it doesn't fulfill the criterium of being persistent. You can't speak of persistently bothering someone when you only say one thing once. Therefore you are being inconsistent.
See.
If you have to ask the question, you should back off. Especially in the workplace. Pretty much anything beyond asking someone to dinner or drinks is going to potentially tread on the line, and even that will if you were given a negative response and just want to "try again". Meeting someone at a conference and having a good conversation and asking them if they want to grab dinner is fine. Getting touchy? If you'd touch an 80-year old person of a gender you aren't attracted to the same way, it's probably fine. If you wouldn't, you're crossing the line. This shit shouldn't be complicated.
It's hypocrisy when the same comment generates different reaction.
A handsome guy saying "hey nice boobs guuurl" is just as creepy as an ugly dude saying "hey nice boobs guuurl!". If the handsome guy is tolerated and the ugly guy is considered harassment then there is legit hypocrisy.
I really think people here are exaggerating, sure handsome guys have it easier but being rejected as an ugly guy doesn't mean she thinks you're harassing her, that's nonsense. Take the hint and move on, if you keep going after that, then it doesn't matter how hot you are, you're harassing.
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By this definition I can slap a random woman's ass and get away with it.