Dating: 5 Turn ons :) 5 Turn Offs :(

[Doctor Amadeus]

When datings, or maybe even just friends, what are your 5 Turns Ons and 5 of your turn offs It can be based on anything you like. Priorities it however suits you best.


Turn On:
1. Black Hair
2. Assertiveness
3. Independent
4. Kind and has a good heart.
5. Pays attention to details


Turn Offs:
1. Blondes
2. Timid
3. Dependent
4. Needlessly Cruel
5. Low Self Esteem

[Katie N]

Turn on:
1. Good personality
2. Light eyes with light hair
3. Is fit
4. Is financially responsible
5. Likes kids so they don't mind having kids already


Turn offs:
1. Too dark skin
2. Being poor
3. Bad hygiene
4. Being lazy
5. Hates kids

[undeadmoon]

Turn Ons:
- Good sense of humor
- Strong, intelligently thought out researched opinions and good with debating about them
- Kind
- Animal lover
- Enthusiasm over an interest...Nothing gets me more into someone than them getting really giddy and into explaining to me about something they love, even if it's something I don't necessarily like. (Current b/f gets like this over telling me about the books he reads, it's so endearing!)


Turn Offs:
- Dour demeanor
- Treating service people poorly
- Willful ignorance
- Lying
- Being overbearing/controlling

There's no real order to them, just some things I look for or try to avoid.

[Doctor Amadeus]

Turn on:
1. Good personality
2. Light eyes with light hair
3. Is fit
4. Is financially responsible
5. Likes kids so they don't mind having kids already


Turn offs:
1. Too dark skin
2. Being poor
3. Bad hygiene
4. Being lazy
5. Hates kids

Not being Poor and Not Having Poor Hygiene , I fit all the rest, I am awesome.

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Turn Ons:
- Good sense of humor
- Strong, intelligently thought out researched opinions and good with debating about them
- Kind
- Animal lover
- Enthusiasm over an interest...Nothing gets me more into someone than them getting really giddy and into explaining to me about something they love, even if it's something I don't necessarily like. (Current b/f gets like this over telling me about the books he reads, it's so endearing!)


Turn Offs:
- Dour demeanor
- Treating service people poorly
- Willful ignorance
- Lying
- Being overbearing/controlling

There's no real order to them, just some things I look for or try to avoid.

I treat Service people well, and I am not willfully ignorant, the rest check check and check haha,

[Stelio Kontos]

Turn Ons:
1. Long hair
2. Feminine
3. Can look good and is knowledgeable about the world
4. Loyal
5. Good-sized libido, because Papi needs it every day :P

Bonus points if she can pull off a sexy goth look, that's sort of my hidden weak spot.

Turn-offs:
1. Too much cussing
2. Always dressed in sweats/pajamas, especially when going out
3. Shallow and ignorant
4. Manipulative
5. Overly-jealous

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Turn on:
1. Good personality
2. Light eyes with light hair
3. Is fit
4. Is financially responsible
5. Likes kids so they don't mind having kids already

Do dark brown hair and green eyes count as light or dark? :P

Also, #5, do you mean they like kids enough that they don't mind if you already have kids going into the relationship?

[Hugnomo]

Turn Ons:
1. Good Looks
2. Polite/Nice
3. Smart/Talented
4. Humble/Grounded
5. Caring

Turn offs
1. Self-absorbed/Narcissistic
2. Arrogant/snob/condescending
3. Immature/melodramatic
4. Clingy
5. Self-pity

[Unhinged]

Turn on
-red hair
-tasteful tattoos
- intelligent
-fit
-loyal

Turn off
-drug use, smoking, excessive drinking
-Wants children
-takes selfies/uses too much social media
-not able to look you in the eyes while talking
-treats wait staffe badly


So finding relationships isn't easy and casual sex with people I don't particularly want any futire with is growing old.

[Shinrael]

Turn Ons:

1. Cute face (eyes, smile, cheeks, eyebrows, can't quite put my finger on it, but there is some kind of pattern that I like. Some kind of noble-ish face, not bad-girl-ish. Also prefer long hair)
2. Fit body (mainly looking at the rear. I prefer slim body/rear and not-very-big fronties)
3. Personality (intelligent, caring, kind, modest, shy but willing to defend her own opinion when necessary)
4. Similar hobbies (Likes anime/games/mountain/nature and other things that I like)
5. Has obvious interest in me/doesn't hide her affection too much (perhaps this should be number 1 xD)

Turn offs:

1. Smokes (absolute no. the moment I see a girl smoking I am like... I was just thinking how cute she looks... It just completely kills my good image regarding her)
2. Heels, piercing, make-up (lately I've become a little bit more tolerant towards it, but I still prefer my girlfriend to be without make-up when going out with me and too much make-up is an instant mood killer )
3. Being shallow, thinking only about getting drunk, high, what to wear, how to barely pass the next exam, which lectures to skip
4. Oversized boobs/rear
5. Tries to "teach me manners" or change who I am. "I AM MY OWN DESTINY!" is what I'd reply. Obviously I won't Eye Beam the crap out of her, but you get my point.

[Speaknoevil]

good looks
agreeable politics
ambition
not destitute
sexual compatibility
__

bad hygiene
contrarian
complainer
sexism
dour

[Katie N]

Do dark brown hair and green eyes count as light or dark? :P

Also, #5, do you mean they like kids enough that they don't mind if you already have kids going into the relationship?

Dark brown hair is dark, it's so prevalent here with dark hair, I like different looks than people here but green eyes are interesting. xD

Yes, I have a daughter with ex-husband so if they mind that it can never be a relationship. Sorry to say but any man will be second to her. If they don't like her or she don't like them then no relationship.

[Stelio Kontos]

Yes, I have a daughter with ex-husband so if they mind that it can never be a relationship. Sorry to say but any man will be second to her. If they don't like her or she don't like them then no relationship.

That's totally understandable. Kids come first, any man (or woman) who can't understand that when dating a single parent is most likely not mature enough.

As for the hair, it's a moot point for me. My hair seems to be getting lighter in color a bit, and I've already got silver hairs coming in on my temples and on my beard around my chin.

*sigh* 35 and going silver already...

[reef]

good
into what I'm into
personable
has a job
physically attractive
intellectually attractive

bad
religious
has kids
smokes
parties
vain

[Katie N]

That's totally understandable. Kids come first, any man (or woman) who can't understand that when dating a single parent is most likely not mature enough.

As for the hair, it's a moot point for me. My hair seems to be getting lighter in color a bit, and I've already got silver hairs coming in on my temples and on my beard around my chin.

*sigh* 35 and going silver already...

Makes it hard to date when have kids and being divorced and turning 30 next year I am not very good dating material to men here but I don't think they are very good dating material either. xD

[Swizzington]

good
into what I'm into
personable
has a job
physically attractive
intellectually attractive

bad
religious
has kids
smokes
parties
vain

What do you mean when you say religious? Are you talking about a fanatic, or just anyone that happens to say they believe in some sort of deity but never really practice it? Seems like quite a sweeping category to entirely exclude.

[Stelio Kontos]

Makes it hard to date when have kids and being divorced and turning 30 next year I am not very good dating material to men here but I don't think they are very good dating material either. xD

When I was younger I wouldn't have wanted to date a single-mother. But to be honest, I wasn't very mature then either. Now, I'm more open to it. I'd still want my own kids one day too, though.

But yeah, I know a couple single parents here, and dating isn't easy for them.

[reef]

What do you mean when you say religious? Are you talking about a fanatic, or just anyone that happens to say they believe in some sort of deity but never really practice it? Seems like quite a sweeping category to entirely exclude.

I tend to like people who're agnostic or atheist. Anything else tends to be a turn off for me.

[belfpala]

Turn On:
1. Black Hair
2. Assertiveness
3. Independent
4. Kind and has a good heart.
5. Pays attention to details


Turn Offs:
1. Blondes
2. Timid
3. Dependent
4. Needlessly Cruel
5. Low Self Esteem

Hrmmm.

On:
1. Energy
2. Imagination
3. Fashion
4. Twisted humor
5. Sex drive

Off
1. Lack of decorum
2. Lack of situational awareness
3. Doesn't like bleu cheese
4. Or pineapple on pizza
5. Or has a criminal record.

Where are you, my perfect woman?

[Immitis]

turn ons

1. does drugs

2. wears lots of eyeshadow and/or has big eyes

3. likes to bite people

4. owns a knife and knows how to use it

5. likes geeky shit

6. wants to sacrifice me to the elder gods

turn offs

1. doesnt atleast use cannabis

2. dresses and acts like a soccer mom

3. doesnt even know how to tie a rope

4. doesnt like geeky shit

5. no muscle/skinny fat

6. doesnt even talk to the elder gods

[SilenceRedo]

Turns on:

1-Blonde or ultra white skin, like a vampiress.
2-Good sense of humor
3-Geekish
4-Tall
5-Doesn't give a fuck about whatever sheep people thinks or says about her.

Turn offs:

1-Religious (the biggest turn off for me)
2-Has/Wants kids. I don't wanna be a father.
3-Is too dependant of her mother. Like chatting every single day on the phone or having the mother in our house every other day...
4-Frivolous
5-About my age (I like them older or younger). Being 29 today I find a 21-22 or 36-37 the ideal woman to me.

[Dsonsion]

The good
1. Fit
2. Reasonable
3. Educated
4. Funny
5. Caring

The bad
1. Strongly opinionated
2. Morbidly obese
3. Religious / New Ager
4. Completely unattached / apparently uninterested
5. Inexorable ambition

I had a couple of girlfriends that pretty much avoided any public display of normal couple behaviour while trying to sell me their attittude as normal. I realise now it was just that they were embarrassed of people seeing them in the streets with me, and that really hurt me. So at the first sign of that, it's over for me.