Originally Posted by
Mysticalape
Hey guys! First of all, some background on the situation;
I'm in a 25man guild, and we are currently 5/7 HC (fingers crossed for 6/7 HC on Sunday), and I am the ranged DPS officer in my guild. I assist with raidleading and I am the general "handholder" in raids. What I mean with this is that I call things out on mumble, like things that are coming up in the encounter (2 seconds till meteors spawn!), or things that need to be dealt with quickly (Need help on spiderlings on left side!) and things like that. The out of combat raidleading is mostly done by our GM (the replacing of people, setting up the raid, making sure the tactics are set, etc). General decisions during raids, such as what boss to go for, loot disputes etc, are mostly dealt with in /o by myself, the GM and the other 2 officers in the guild.
Now, whenever we raid and things don't go as smoothly, I have over the past few months become quite aggressive in the way I react and in the way I speak/sound over mumble. I don't yell, but I whine. A lot. During this time, on more than two occasions, I have even gone as far as to alt+F4 and stay logged out for 10 minutes in order to prevent me from saying/doing things I know I would regret. I know this is because of some personal events that has been going on during the past half year or so that cause me to not handle pressure and stress very well (which I will not go into here, because that is a totally different subject), but I feel that I want to continue to raid and raidlead, because that is something I love doing and it helps me keep my mind of real-life things that I cannot do anything about anyway.
It is bad for the moral of the raid to for me to keep whining, and I don't want to spoil the evening of 24 other people. What I am hoping some of you might be able to help with is a way - or ways - to be able to raidlead without getting worked up when things go well. Perhaps some new way of looking at things, a new way to deal with situations, or just something as simple as having a glass of wine. Anything you do / would do to ease stress and pressure of raidleading would be greatly appreciated.