So, I got invited to a wedding and along with the invitation is a slip of paper stating the places the couple is registered at. I find this to be extremely presumptive and rude. To me, it says hey we want you at the wedding but only if you buy us something and here is what you will buy and where. This seems to be a recent trend starting about 10 years ago or so as I don't remember seeing registries prior to that.
A gift should NOT be expected. It should be something that an attendee thinks to do on their own and should be something personal and from the heart, not just a check mark on a shopping list. I'm considering not attending due to this rude invitation. Maybe if they didnt blow $20k on the wedding they wouldn't need it to be subsidized through gifts. They could have a small wedding for $2k and spend the rest to furnish their house. I think a card with 10 bucks in it should be sufficient
Even worse is when you go to a person's second wedding and they give you a registry with a list of gifts to buy. What did they do with the stuff they got the first time they got married? It seems like a scam just to get free stuff. Also rarely does a registry consist of cheap stuff. Its always stuff over $20 and the majority over $50. Anyone else find registries rude?