Would you let your girlfriend or wife hangout with a bunch of dudes from work?

[Whidbey]

My wife like myself is lesbian so sure.

[Stormcall]

Hanging out with a bunch of dudes from work? I wouldn't care, I don't expect any girl I would marry(or date) is gonna turn into Penny Pornstar when I'm not around and have a gangbang with her coworkers. I'd be more concerned if it was just 1 guy asking her out for drinks, and even then I wouldn't tell her not to, though I would probably ask if the dude is aware she's not single, and doesn't think it's a date or something.

[Maios]

I don't think my wife would go hang out with a bunch of dudes without inviting me. Each relationship is unique though.

[palamanian]

As others have stated, this isn't about "Letting her", it's her life, her choice, etc.

Do you trust your girlfriend? That's more to the point here. A friend of mine was dating a girl for over year when suddenly she started working late and hanging out with some people from work, and now she's married and has kids with that person from work.

Personally I don't consider my girlfriend the type of person to put herself in that situation, but everyone is different.

[3DTyrant]

If she wants to go, that's up to her, would I trust her? Well, I wouldn't be in a relationship with her had I have little to no trust in her, so there you go, my view on your question

[Litoru]

There's two things I don't understand about this thread.

First of all, about "letting" your girlfriend or wife go on afterwork?
Second of all, the people who say it's weird, mean or in somewhat wrong that your significant other goes to enjoy him/herself without you, "leaving" you at home?

Seriously, WTF. Each to their own, but in my opinion, even if you're best friends with your partner, which you should be, there's times where bringing your SO is just weird. Afterwork usually includes talking about work, and unless you work at the same place, your SO won't have much to talk about. It's not about him/her "leaving" you, you're supposed to have your own life, even if you're in a relationship. It IS okay to do things with your friends, without your SO.

[Maximus Testiculos]

Your trust is not enough. The world is not filled with nice people who will care about what will happen to your loved one. They will not really stop when she told them to. This is not romantic comedy.

'I don't use word 'let' ,because i am so progressive' is a very naive way of looking. You don't say these things because you are a monster,you just care about her.

[Deleted]

I have in the past, I don't see a reason why not. Besides, I'm not particularly jealous type, if the woman I'm dating wants to go get something on the side that's well within their rights, although the issue has never risen yet.
Heck, I even knew a co-worker and a friend of my ex who had a huge single-sided crush on her, and I had no issues with them hanging together on occasion. She could set her own limits without my interference.

[Granyala]

If I don't trust someone well enough, she wouldn't even be my girlfriend/wife =P

Couldn't express it any better.

[Theodoxus]

Happens every Friday. The only tinge of jealousy I had was the fact that she never went out drinking with me, but she's getting beer advice from these guys. I'd join, but I'm doing my own thing Fridays.

[Deleted]

Jealousy = insecurity. You don't think you're good enough for her to really like you and you believe she could easily find better than you.

[gpherder]

Lets say they had an event at work, and they all went out afterward to get some drinks. Would you let your girlfriend or wife hangout and drink with a bunch of dudes from work? Or would you trust her?

"Let her hang out"? What, you're the sole arbiter of what your significant other "gets" to do now?

[Deleted]

"Let her hang out"? What, you're the sole arbiter of what your significant other "gets" to do now?

If I tell her not to go out, she won't go.

On the other hand, if she tells me not to go out, I won't go either.

She is mine, and I am hers. We each want to please the other.

A strong relationship requires both partners to each give up a little individuality.

[Garlorik]

Rather then say whether or not i would "let her" since when it comes down to it i can not force her to do anything ill answer it from the pespective of whether or not i would be comfortable with the idea.

The answer is it depends. I wouldnt mind if she went for a few minutes and made an appearance but going out for hours and drinking with male co workers i would not at all be comfortable with. This isnt sexist in the least, I highly doubt any woman would be comfortable if her bf went out with a bunch of female coworkers for drinks after work for any reason and it works the same way for men.

As for trust in my opinion any woman who puts herself in a situation where she is becoming intoxicated with people from the opposite sex can not be trusted. If you want to hang out hang out with your girlfriends, but when guys and girls hang out especially when alcohol is involved someone is bound to make a move. You just dont put yourself in that situation where something bad could happend just as a guy should not do that if he has a girlfriend.