Back in Wrath I tanked Ulduar 25. We were in heroic pushing for the mount and finally myself and probably 10 of the other people could not take the raid leader's crap anymore. After probably 20-30 wipes on Yogg the guild broke, right then. I decided raiding was not for me anymore and focused on the casual aspect of WoW.
Fast forward to WoD, I'm into healing now. While I have no intention of jumping to Mythic, or grinding thirty+ hours a week. I figured it was time for me to start raiding again. Found a few dude bro guilds, where in chat it was a bunch of teenagers talking about getting with girls and insulting homsexuals - with of course really annoying laughs. Also had a great recuiter too who was not like the trolls at all. Left pretty fast, after my first vent run. Won't deal with that.
So I finally found a guild. Just normal raiders and good people. I have some heroic experience they do not but I figured it would be fun to grow with this guild since the people are top notch. Problem is Wife and Hubby Co GMs, have never played a healer or tank their entire history in wow. Was having great fun, and then a peice of gear dropped for healers.
"A caster chest peice dps item because it has no spirit." He said that over the Mic. Part of me just wanted to explain it to him. Another part of me expected him to have a better grasp of such things because he was a leader of the raid and guild. But I thought one of the other healers who had been then awhile would say something to him. Problem is they never said anything in mumble to him either.
Then later into the normal HM raid, the dps was not very good at all but bosses downed because healers were strong, he would say things like, "I do not care what other raid leaders say. DPS doesn't matter, only the boss down matters." I thought to myself, only someone who played only as a DPS would ever say that. Every fight same thing, healers stressed to hell, he would go on saying something like that and never give the healers credit.
I know the how the healing role works, it is always your fault when it doesn't work, the raid never succeeds because of you. None of the glory all of the blame most of the time.
So I figured the logical course of action is to talk to him but half of me says I should not ever bother. He is a leader but doesn't know healer gear has no spirit outside of rings trinkets and neck. So even if I was to explain that to him and he was cool. It is still pretty ignorant as someone who controls all the loot. Also I will have to explain to him how mastery is junk for my MW and how I need multistrike so I may reroll on something I have - who knows how that would go. Again something he should know handing out loot.
Finally he claims DPS does not matter. Yet his wife and him have terrible DPS which is cool fine I did not sign up to push mythic. But he also has not intention of recruting any better dps for the future. Which means he has no real concept about what kind of stress that puts on his healers to preform miracles to push the badies through. But yet wants to progress into heroic and so on. He wants to compete with this other enemy guild that booted him out.
We went to normal Blackrock and other than Beastlord, we got our butts ate. No amount of heals could save them outside of that boss. Tons of puggers came in saying the same thing. Great heals your DPS will get you no where sorry. Would not change his mindset.
So I talk to him and give him time (the guy is 60), to grow as a GM and the raiders as a group. Talk to him and see what happens at least about the gear stuff? Or should I just consider him a good guy and the guild good people. But they will never be able to clear current content even at normal - so find one that does. I'm torn because I am a loyal person but at the same time no hope of ever succeeding most likely is disheartening.
What should I do? Explain everything or move on? I have experience raiding with very good aholes but little to no experience of dealing with great people, lead by two GMs that are more or less nice but horrible. They advertised as a knowlegable, serious, but fun normal guild who would focus on pushing futher. Hard to see that.