This girl.

[Goronpower]

Hey guys, first of all i'm not sure if this thread belongs here or not, but ill post it because i would like to get help ASAP. Basically I was friends with this girl in elementary school, and i hadn't seen her in around 2 years because of medical issues where i was not able to go to school. Anyways i wanted to go visit her about a few months ago at school and once i saw her she seemed happy that i was there, but after a couple days of talking with her again she said " your acting weird, and saying weird things." The next day she said, politely as she could, that she didnt want to hang out with me anymore. She said something similar to this "Hey (name) i need to tell you something, i cant hang out with you because i want to have some time with my other friends, and I'm too busy outside of school to hang out with you, sorry i hope you understand." But here's the problem, I keep having dreams about her and us being friends again ( not sexual at all) and i cannot get rid of them, even if I keep thinking before i go to bed that she is a bitch. i really don't know what to do guys. Should i call her up and try to get back together (we were always only friends, but i eventually always wanted to be her BF.)? Or should i just keep trying to forget about it?
I have a therapist but i don't get to see him for a while. Would really appreciate the help guys, thanks.

tl;dr: was friends with this girl in elementary school,but missed school until 8th grade do to medical issues, was trying to get to be friends with her again, she rejected me, im still having non sexual dreams about her. dont know what to do.

Other facts: I am going into 9th grade this fall, and so is she. i was friends with her since 4th grade, im a bit chubby( dont think she would care about this but people change i guess), but pretty smart

okay, thanks again guys, try to read the whole thing. But just incase your lazy i put a tl;dr.

[Deleted]

What has your IQ score got to do with anything?

[Deleted]

IQ is not related to intelligence; there is a correlation to it but just because you have a high IQ doesn't make you smart.

Also lol 9th grade.

[Erolian]

Suggestion? Leave her alone. No means no and in this case if she says go away then go away. lol at the IQ

[pocky_rin]

Sounds like the school might have run a rumor mill about why you were sick if she was saying that you are acting weird. I would say don't push her but join any school activities where you might be together and act your normal self, show her nothing has changed with you. If nothing happens I'm afraid you haven't changed but she sure has and you should just let her go and find someone more into things that you are.

[Themius]

Hey guys, first of all i'm not sure if this thread belongs here or not, but ill post it because i would like to get help ASAP. Basically I was friends with this girl in elementary school, and i hadn't seen her in around 2 years because of medical issues where i was not able to go to school. Anyways i wanted to go visit her about a few months ago at school and once i saw her she seemed happy that i was there, but after a couple days of talking with her again she said " your acting weird, and saying weird things." The next day she said, politely as she could, that she didnt want to hang out with me anymore. She said something similar to this "Hey (name) i need to tell you something, i cant hang out with you because i want to have some time with my other friends, and I'm too busy outside of school to hang out with you, sorry i hope you understand." But here's the problem, I keep having dreams about her and us being friends again ( not sexual at all) and i cannot get rid of them, even if I keep thinking before i go to bed that she is a bitch. i really don't know what to do guys. Should i call her up and try to get back together (we were always only friends, but i eventually always wanted to be her BF.)? Or should i just keep trying to forget about it?
I have a therapist but i don't get to see him for a while. Would really appreciate the help guys, thanks.

tl;dr: was friends with this girl in elementary school,but missed school until 8th grade do to medical issues, was trying to get to be friends with her again, she rejected me, im still having non sexual dreams about her. dont know what to do.

Other facts: I am going into 9th grade this fall, and so is she. i was friends with her since 4th grade, im a bit chubby( dont think she would care about this but people change i guess), but pretty smart ( got IQ tested last year by a doctor and had an IQ of 135. not to be a complete asshole).

okay, thanks again guys, try to read the whole thing. But just incase your lazy i put a tl;dr.

Your old friends sounds like the typical 13-14.

[Deleted]

Leave her alone and move on with life.

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[FathomFear]

( got IQ tested last year by a doctor and had an IQ of 135. not to be a complete asshole).

If you're smart you'll come to terms with the fact that all dating/friendships that occur around your age don't really mean much in the long term. They are nothing to get stressed over. Just focus on being yourself and having a good time. No love interest is worth sweating over at that age.

[Goronpower]

What has your IQ score got to do with anything?

yea i dont know, i just included that as another fact so people wont think that im stupid ( cuz that could have repelled her)

[Bloodege-NUFC]

This will sound hard, ..just leave her.


Chances are, she'll come back or you'll forget about her. <---I've done this so ..Yeah...

[Deleted]

IQ does not directly mean you are "smart" in the real world atleast.

You answered the question yourself, people change, i am no longer friends with everyone i knew at school and niether will you.

[Deleted]

Leave her alone and move on with life.

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This in the nicest way possible, you have a crush on a girl that rejected you. It will go away unless you choose the actively try to refuse to accept the rejection...in which case I've seen enough movies and documentaries to know it will not end well for you or the girl.

[pocky_rin]

yea i dont know, i just included that as another fact so people wont think that im stupid ( cuz that could have repelled her)

The fact that she's a teenager and changing her mind every second is repelling her to be honest. Normal logic can't really be applied here, if she doesn't want to talk to you there isn't much you can do about it, if you push the issue you only cement her mind.

[Seani]

Sounds like the school might have run a rumor mill about why you were sick if she was saying that you are acting weird. I would say don't push her but join any school activities where you might be together and act your normal self, show her nothing has changed with you. If nothing happens I'm afraid you haven't changed but she sure has and you should just let her go and find someone more into things that you are.

I have to concur here, my suggestion is to grow some thicker skin. Don't worry about this girl and focus on what is important to you, which should be grades.

[Goronpower]

This will sound hard, ..just leave her.


Chances are, she'll come back or you'll forget about her. <---I've done this so ..Yeah...

yes but these dreams have become more frequent and have been bothering me alot, even when it has been atleast 3 or 4 months now.

[Amerrol]

Leave her alone and move on with life.

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This. If she doesn't want to be your friend then don't bother trying to force it. She will just resent you more for it. You will have a chance at a fresh start in high school, so make the most of it and don't worry about some girl who doesn't want to be friends with you.

[-Skye]

yea i dont know, i just included that as another fact so people wont think that im stupid ( cuz that could have repelled her)

/Facepalm. 135 IQ and can't use the world because instead of 'cuz'.

On topic:

Leave her alone and speak to her again in few months, if she still doesn't want to speak to you then just leave her alone.

[Deleted]

yea i dont know, i just included that as another fact so people wont think that im stupid ( cuz that could have repelled her)

It is not your IQ that is repelling her, my advice is just to leave her alone.

[Mayhem]

yea i dont know, i just included that as another fact so people wont think that im stupid ( cuz that could have repelled her)

bad luck, acting stupid has nothing todo with your IQ, so leave her alone

[Deleted]

yes but these dreams have become more frequent and have been bothering me alot, even when it has been atleast 3 or 4 months now.

Doesn't matter, don't turn into a weirdo and stalk here. Leave her alone, if she wants contact she would make contact.