Please help: dealing with her fear

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[General Vezax]

This seems more like something you should turn to your "local old wise person" for.

[Raidboss]

Going out on a limb but was she molested or raped? That's the only thing I can pick up from the blog. If so thats a long road to making her comfortable if it ever happens.

[Spectral]

This is after three months together? I'd be inclined to bail immediately. I don't enter into projects.

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Don't try for help on forums mate, go ask family, a friend, even a colleague

[Silhouette of Seraphim]

Sounds to me like she's swinging for the fences with a sack full of crazy.

[Dys]

You should get her a dictionary with the definitions of clear and obvious highlighted. She, clearly and obviously, has absolutely no idea how to use those words.

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You should get her a dictionary with the definitions of clear and obvious highlighted. She, clearly and obviously, has absolutely no idea how to use those words.

This, phone and be all like "what you talkin' bout, don't say it's clear from your blog post it really fucking isn't, spit it out".

[Deleted]

I didn't understand anything. People should either say directly what they feel, or should say nothing at all.

Nothing is obvious from what you quoted. It looks like an excerpt from a book that would bear the name "Trying to understand women".

[Deleted]

Please, only post things I can use to deal with this. I really believe in us, so I'm looking for people who have experience in this kind of matters. I was expecting some rude comments, I just hope it doesn't stop others from posting/pming me.

Leaving the crazy lady is a valid method of dealing with it.

[Spectral]

Please, only post things I can use to deal with this.

I have posted the most useful advice you can possibly receive in this matter. Of course, you won't listen to it, because it's not what you want to hear, but such is life.

[Lysah]

They make meds for this kind of thing.

[Deleted]

Thing is, we can't really get ANYTHING from that blogpost of hers. She's not explaining anything, just sulking.

So you're best of talking to her family - her mother for example whom she mentioned - and go from there.

[Shuji V2]

All this after a whopping 3 months of being together? Sir, I'd get out while it's still possible.

But seriously, I don't understand why people feel as if they've been a lifetime together while it's only been 3 months. I really don't get it.

[Hyve]

If this is after 3 months, then I fear this is something none of us, nor yourself, can deal with.

Sit down, and talk it through. If it all hits the fan, move on, but get to the bottom of this if you think it is the right thing to do.

[Merkava]

This is after three months together? I'd be inclined to bail immediately. I don't enter into projects.

Gotta say, don't know what you do for a living, but every time I drop in on one of these personal/relationship help threads your advice is always spot on.

[slime]

I believed that she was raped/molested the first time I read it, but after re-reading it I don't think so. There seems to be some over-dramatized fear of commital here. Like she is scared to lose her alone time, lose herself in your relationship. Completely normal when feelings of love might be new to a person. But, that was a crazy way to tell you. Expect a lot of this kind of behavior from her over time, if it's your kind of thing stick it out. If this one thing is already off-putting for you, I don't know what to say .. get used to it. You might try to speak with people that know her better than you, her mom - best friends, but be careful there too very dramatic people can see that as some sort of betrayal because you didn't go to her directly. Expect a passionate, heart-wrenching relationship.

[Kalis]

She's using emotional blackmail after only three months - get out as soon as possible, and don't look back.

[Galathir]

They make meds for this kind of thing.

This. She very probably needs a psychologist or psychiatrist.
The problem will be making her accept that that is not a bad thing.
I take it she is pretty shy and incommunicative seeing that she wrote this indirectly for you to read without being able to talk to you about it.
Take this as a step in the right direction. It is probably hard for her, but she wanted to tell you how she feels in a way that she could cope with.

There is no easy solution for your or her problem. She will need time, trust and honesty to maybe get over her fears and psychological attention will definitely help.