What is this "expecting sex" anyway?
All of this white-knightery just validates the barbaric idea that women should have their sexuality repressed.
Instead here we are still stuck in some "sex is icky and sinful" puritanical nonsense culture that establishes women as 'sex brokers' in order to reward men for their 'goodness'.
Want to know why no matter how hard you try you can't help but watch porn? Because, albeit admittedly pornography doesn't paint the most realistic picture of human sexuality, it's still more realistic than this 'matrix' of abrahamic moralist sexual repression that we live in.
And it's not just women who are repressed, it's men too, by virtue of the fact that sex is the psychological equivalent of a dog's treat for them.
Not really. If we're talking about deciding whether or not you want to bang, there's a much simpler criteria.
For younger guys without experience, having a vagina is sufficient.
When you get older, it simply becomes a question of does she look good to my standards.
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Buy drinks and converse at the same time?
'Twas a cutlass swipe or an ounce of lead
Or a yawing hole in a battered head
And the scuppers clogged with rotting red
And there they lay I damn me eyes
All lookouts clapped on Paradise
All souls bound just contrarywise, yo ho ho and a bottle of rum!
Because, you know, he kinda does it voluntary. If you don't want to pay for her, don't pay for her. Theres this old fashion thing called chivalry, it is in no way mandatory, but it is still commonly used. Ironicly it is not used by the so called 'nice guys' who expect girls to have sex with them for smiling creepy and opening the door.
You're also free to ask a girl out and expect her to pay for it. I wish you good luck.
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And at what point does sex become a mutual decision between two human beings who respect each other and see each other as equals outside of the bedroom? You're still pushing for an ideal where female sexuality is deliberately repressed.
If a woman wants to have sex in exchange for some sort of consideration then she's a whore.
If a woman wants to have sex without receiving consideration in return then she's a slut.
The common denominator is women wanting to have sex for the purpose of satisfying what they want.
Mr. Nice guy, mr. white knight, mr. preacher man... they are all the same barbaric slob.
this is a dumb concept. prostitution is having sex for money. paying for a date DOES NOT gaurantee sex at all.
r.i.p. alleria. 1997-2017. blizzard ruined alleria forever. blizz assassinated alleria's character and appearance.
i will never forgive you for this blizzard.
The real dumb concept is the idea of spending time and resources on a one sided courtship wherein there is no consideration on the woman's side. And yet people just constantly feed this paradigm.
To invoke and paraphrase one of my favorite movies of all time (sorry never read the book.)
What has she ever done to prove how she feels about you?
'Twas a cutlass swipe or an ounce of lead
Or a yawing hole in a battered head
And the scuppers clogged with rotting red
And there they lay I damn me eyes
All lookouts clapped on Paradise
All souls bound just contrarywise, yo ho ho and a bottle of rum!
The good ones do. I've said earlier this is the Internet Dating era and there are many women out there who dig through profiles just to get a free meal and/or drinks. I think people are confusing courtship with 1st date. There shouldn't be any courting on a first date...That's the getting to know you date.
In a normal adult relationship yes. But I see people wasting time and money on one sided courtships all too often. It's really quite sad. And that is where you come to the ole "who should pay?" debate.
If two people are of roughly the same age and financial capability, and are both courting each other then the exchange of items of monetary value just becomes a wasteful practice. You're better off just meeting half way and going out to do something you both enjoy.
'Twas a cutlass swipe or an ounce of lead
Or a yawing hole in a battered head
And the scuppers clogged with rotting red
And there they lay I damn me eyes
All lookouts clapped on Paradise
All souls bound just contrarywise, yo ho ho and a bottle of rum!
"..them."
I have never gone out with someone just for a free restaurant meal.
I've had a free meal pushed on me in spite of my vehement insistence to the contrary many times though. On the occasions where I caved and let them do it, it was because they had started trying to make me feel guilty about not wanting to let them pay.
OK Cupid, yeah.
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I'm beset upon by having to sift through a bunch of annoying women before I find one worth a second date too. It goes both ways. You go on a bunch of dates and eventually you find one worth keeping.
'Twas a cutlass swipe or an ounce of lead
Or a yawing hole in a battered head
And the scuppers clogged with rotting red
And there they lay I damn me eyes
All lookouts clapped on Paradise
All souls bound just contrarywise, yo ho ho and a bottle of rum!