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Dragonslayer Kooqu
" The guilt of an unnecessary war is terrible." --- President John Adams
" America goes not abroad, in search of monsters to destroy." --- President John Quincy Adams
" Our Federal Union! It must be preserved!" --- President Andrew Jackson
Well, we have a story of only 3 days. Monday and Tuesday, and today. And she has had an explanation for those, but he doesn't want to believe it. It's some detective work to figure out someone isn't interested in few days. People have bad times longer than that.
Prove to me she has lied. The OP apparently hasn't been able to either. Her explanations are sound until you do.
Umm I didn't ask you guys why she's no longer interested. I'm not obsessed with that at all, because I haven't done anything wrong. Not yet at least. Also, I understand that working with an ex isn't the biggest deal in the world, but it's still a pain in the ass.
I didn't right away assume she was lying. I felt she was lying due to me perceiving reluctance to the plans we made. As for your question, I, like any mentally healthy person, care about myself first and foremost. I will not sacrifice someone else's happiness for my own, but I put my happiness everything else. Do I care about this girl? Yeah. I don't get into relationships with people I don't care about. Especially not one where I know she's going to be shipping out in a year.
...I am not doing any mind games whatsoever. I have been completely clear with my intentions. Also, I didn't break any of the plans... Did you read the OP?
Sure, but unless its something super super major, its generally not enough to overcome the infatuation stage that occurs in the first few weeks of a relationship. So either somehting super bad happened (in which case he should ask her next time he sees her), or she's not nearly as into him as he is into her.
Yes, yes I did.
This is all your mind games. You have no proof that you're right either. Even your mom disagreed with your diagnosis so far. And the bolded part, what's that? Would you like to word it different? Plan to break up? Does that satisfy you if it's worded that way?
Never been a fan of long distance relationships.
What I would recommend is to seriously reconsider the relationship. If its not a serious thing then just dump her.
Last edited by NED funded; 2016-10-11 at 07:41 PM.
Tell her you know she is busy, and tell her to contact you once she is free.
Then stop initiating contacts with her, wait for her to respond. If she doesn't respond after a month, write her off.
....Mind games are manipulating someone or stringing them along. Breaking up with someone isn't a mind game. If it was my intention to break up with her in order for her to miss me, then I suppose that would be the case, but honestly if I break up with her it'll be for good. You still haven't explained how I broke any plans whatsoever. Because I haven't.
I also didn't say that I was right. I even asked specifically what you guys thought on the topic. You've just been on some weird crusade the entire time.
You haven't explained at which point I said it. I was specifically talking of your plans to break up. I even worded it again in last post for you to be happy about, but no.
It's a crusade the minute someone doesn't buy your assumptions based on guesses and literally few days of events? She's given the explanations, you wrote them in the OP yourself. You are not believing them, that's on you. I have no reason to believe she's lying, in favor of your wild guess.
Also, this part. It was a complete waste of time to rant about her alleged shady behaviour, if you've already decided on some other reason why you don't want to continue. What was the point?
Thanks for the advice guys. I'm gonna let things settle and then we'll see how things go on Sunday.
I think you might be having reading problems. He cares about her so much, that after few days of events he already suspects her of lying, even though so far the explanations seem perfectly reasonable. Some caring.
And where do you find willingness to make it work long distance? That there? It spells exactly the opposite of what you suggest. I mean, what text are you reading exactly? Do you put his words through MGTOW translator, that turns it the opposite?Especially not one where I know she's going to be shipping out in a year.
One sided stories never work for good dating advice.