hello,
so ive been talking to this girl for some time now. everything has been great. been on a few dates, both like each other, etc. said she needed more time to process things and wants everything to be perfect before officially becoming a couple. told her no relationship is perfect as it requires work. bumps and roadblocks come with relationships, and the more you overcome, the stronger you both will be in the long-run.
with that said, we typically talk 1-2 times a week which is fine; however, if i dont talk to her in a week then she assumed that im not interested anymore. there is nothing that says that the guy has to do all the communicating, right? sure she likes to email, text, etc.. but i think actual verbal communication (e.g hearing voices, talking things out) is the best way to see how both parties are feeling.
so basically i look like the bad guy when i dont communicate with her as much as she wants, yet i am a busy guy. what is stopping her from picking up the phone and calling? i just dont see how things can go one way and not the other. so she wants me to talk to her as if we're official when we're not.. she wants to eat her cake and have it too.. until we hit the next level, that can not be the case.
should i just chill on reaching out to her? i even voiced my opinion on verbal communication but she still feels happy with mainly emailing. gets mad/pissed/concerned if i dont reach out to her as much when my number is right there in her phone.
i know she got out of a bad relationship about a year ago (they were together for 2.5 years) but i am not her ex and she can not remain paralyzed over her past. if she can not move on from that, should i even bother?
im really frustrated right now.