This wouldn't bother me at all. I can't see any valid reason for it to bother anyone else either, it's just pure insecurity.
This wouldn't bother me at all. I can't see any valid reason for it to bother anyone else either, it's just pure insecurity.
I don't see it as insecurity, No offense ofcourse but i guess i've seen your views about sex. Some people mind having a girl/boy who had a lot of sexual partners or engaging in things they would never engage in because its against their standarts? Don't know if thats what the OP thinks.
It has nothing to do with insecurity but rather a single person's morals. While you may find it totally not understandable there are many who do understand.
Physically it doesen't really have any changes, You can wash yourself and its not like you change under there.
Some people just don't like someone who is so easy with sex or easy as a person.
Seems a lot of ppl missed that she did it a couple of times a few years ago with 1 guy for the 3 times.
So OP you need to find out (if it bothers you) why she did it.
Was she pressured/dragged into it by he then BF or was she the initiator?
Was her BF and her addicts (drug/alcohol) that could of changed the way she acted back then?
What are the chances she will have those needs in the future? (i mean she had 3 orgies, but hasn't done it since....hardly a hardcore sex junkie...but not innocent either)
Ask this question to the coquette. Go on.
Excuse me if I am misreading you, but it sounds like you miss the entire point of the speech in Chasing Amy. It's not about finding a middle ground. It's about accepting that a person's sexual history has nothing to do with him, but rather his hang ups and insecurities about feeling inadequate as a partner and him making that discovery too late.
Also in reference to some of the more recent posts, the amount of people slept with or the sex acts performed in the past have nothing to do with you. Perhaps that person was in a different place in their life and what they wanted. To expect that person to hold a sexual standard for a future relationship with you is rather self-centered and makes you look petty.
Well, maybe it's not insecurity. Regardless, I stand by not being able to see any valid reason for it bother someone. I don't regard arbitrary standards that aren't predicated on anything about a person as valid. I guess people can set whatever relationship criteria they like, but this one seems about as sensible as saying, "I don't date people that like both milk and dark chocolate".
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You could not possibly have missed Bob's point any worse. In fact, this might be the most point missing of all point missed situation I've ever encountered.
Dude it's just sex. Every woman on this planet wants to be fucked by 2 guys at some point. Even every guy i've ever known would want to be in this situation if he could be a woman for a day. Why? Because being desired and being fucked is awesome. And no it's not the same when a guy suggests a threesome with 2 girls. They just want some bragging rights in front of their "wannabe"friends.
You can be very certain that at some point she's going to want it again and if you just can't stand to see some1 elses dick all i can tell you is: Toughen the fuck up and be a man. Every guy on this planet associates a boner with excitement/arousal/pleasure. Why? Because he sees one every time he is horny.
Meh, I'm kinda (in)famous for my incredibly low standards, nothing to be ashamed of.
To OP, threesome=/=orgy, are 2 cocks at a same time such a deal-breaker for you? Or would you feel better if they were a hour or two apart? Only 3 things are a big no-no for me, refusing to take STD test, cheating and them being married. If she doesn't cheat on you, and STD test is clean, what is there to be worried about? Unless you're worried that you won't be able to satisfy her, in which case you could always buy a dildo for added fun.
PS. while we're mentioning Kevin Smith, here's another gem from Clerks
Pff Tilili sounds like the kind of girl who needs to go online and talk about how promiscues she is. And she needs everyone to be okay with it! Go suck a dick Tiili.
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Last edited by Radux; 2013-01-26 at 10:41 PM.
LDS = Mormon. LDS is the "proper" term, Mormon is what everyone else calls us. I guess we refer to ourselves like that as well, but it's not quite politically correct. Sorry for the confusion. Thanks for the advice as well everyone, it's only been a day but I find it easier to swallow than before. And yes, i -do- try to put myself in the same situation. If asked would I do it or say no? I don't really know because it's never happened...I'm trying my best to keep an open mind. It's just foreign to me, and never had to think about myself in this position before.
Last edited by Uncle Julian; 2013-01-26 at 11:33 PM.
It happened before you meet her. I don't get how it is important now, I mean if you had a really hot girl friend and she gave you the offer to have a 3 way with her and another girl (hot friend) you'd probably have said hell ya, what's wrong with her doing the same thing? O well that's just my opinion on the matter. That Chasing Amy video is actually exactly the right answer imo.
I'm sorry, but what's immoral about sexual acts between 3 people instead of 2 (gosh, I wont dare imagine what you think of foursomes)?
Furthermore, what does it matter what she did as part of her sexual life previous to meeting the OP? If she's in a relationship with him and they're having "normal" sex that they both agree to and that doesn't bother the OP, then why should he not agree to be with her because of her past sexual experience that have literally no bearing on the present?
I'm sorry, but I just don't see any logical reason as to why the OP should refuse to be in a relationship with this girl.