Unsure what to do with my neighbor

[Tutonious]

shoulda just told him you have a girlfriend. that's what I do when a girl hits on me that i'm not interested in. hey they've been doing it to us men for ages, time to return the favor

[Master Jakken]

Tell him you aren't gay. I don't get why you're scared.

[Time Sage]

Just tell him you don't go for guys? While I can't vouch from expierance (as I've only asked out one guy and I knew he was gay beforehand....), I'd imagine he's heard it before, it's actully quite common that most of the population is straight, if he's had experience with guys before he's likely used to that kind of rejection

[Maxilian]

Well... i don't think you should go to the point of calling the cops, you just should tell him what you think or at least tell him "I'm really sorry i can't give you the answer you want cause i'm not interested in guys", that should work... Note: Sometimes when you don't give a really direct answer people start thinking like: "I may still have a chance, I won't give up until he/she turn me down completely"

[Molo]

I think your neighbor just wants someone to jerk off with. There's nothing gay about that. While jerking, you can learn so much about a person and might even enjoy each other's company. Just make sure you don't touch each other because that would be gay.

[Bigbamboozal]

You've made it clear, now when he says sexual things, you can just change the subject: so, what do you think about what's going on in the middle east?
Or
Find a super religious girl who wants to 'save him' and sick her on him.
He'll get the message after she tries to convert him for a few years

[forwards1ca]

So I'm kinda freaked out right now and I was wondering if anyone had a similar experience. Here's the story:

A guy around my age (20) moved in next doors a few days ago. I went to say hello, he was really friendly and we exchanged numbers. I noticed he had a lot of visitors in the past few days but they weren't loud...so that was really none of my business.

but this is where it gets weird. Today he texted me, asking me where I'm from and stuff...literally 3 messages later, he asks me if I have a girlfriend and if I watch porn a lot. Then he asks me if I wanted to come over to watch a "movie" and the fact that he's bisexual.

I told him I was ok with anyone's sexuality as long as they don't make a move on me, because I'm straight and planning to remain straight. But he wouldn't let go and he started asking more personal questions, to which i didn't bother answering.

I'm kinda worried right now that we will kinda run in to serious problems if he remains this persistent and well I'm not gonna judge, but his friends are not among the finest people of our society if you know what I mean.

Any suggestions? oh by the way: I live alone and in Texas.

I feel your pain dude. I used to work at a gay club in Edmonton (was just a job for extra money) and I had a shitton of problems with very agressive gay men. They seemed to love me, and wouldn't take "I'm not gay" for an answer. Most of the time I was told "Oh, you are, you just don't know it yet". There weren't very many like this (most were very cool about it) but the few who were made life difficult. I actually had one guy come up tp me one night, grab my junk, and ask if I was busy later. He ended up spending a few days in the hospital, and I never had anothe rproblem with any agressive gay man after that. Now, I'm not necessarily advocating stomping a mudhole into this guys ass, but some people just wont listen and need a very physical reminder that their advances are unwanted.

Before you ask, no, I didn't lose my job as the owner of the club was a good friend, and I didn't get in trouble because the guy was told that if he persued any charges he'd be banned from the club for life and I would press sexual assault charges.

[Time Sage]

I feel your pain dude. I used to work at a gay club in Edmonton (was just a job for extra money) and I had a shitton of problems with very agressive gay men. They seemed to love me, and wouldn't take "I'm not gay" for an answer. Most of the time I was told "Oh, you are, you just don't know it yet". There weren't very many like this (most were very cool about it) but the few who were made life difficult. I actually had one guy come up tp me one night, grab my junk, and ask if I was busy later. He ended up spending a few days in the hospital, and I never had anothe rproblem with any agressive gay man after that. Now, I'm not necessarily advocating stomping a mudhole into this guys ass, but some people just wont listen and need a very physical reminder that their advances are unwanted.

Before you ask, no, I didn't lose my job as the owner of the club was a good friend, and I didn't get in trouble because the guy was told that if he persued any charges he'd be banned from the club for life and I would press sexual assault charges.

It's probably NOT a good idea to work at a gay bar unless you're A: Gay. B: Bi C: Female (You'd never get hit on at least!)

[Deleted]

This may be a little off-topic but this country has some weird laws. For example, if someone's gonna rape you and you ask them to at least use condoms (or offer them condoms, can't remember), it's not counted as rape anymore. There was an actual court case on that. :|

Do you mind linking some info/the name of this case? I got a bit curious.

[Chief Brouhaha]

Now you know who not to give a spare key to!

[wvx]

Well, that is fucked up.

US , the land of fucked up laws and lawyers , where common sense isn't worth a dime .

[Gil]

Do you mind linking some info/the name of this case? I got a bit curious.

I work in a law firm and heard the story from an attorney, but I think this should be the one he was talking about.
http://articles.latimes.com/1993-05-...35226_1_condom

[v2prwsmb45yhuq3wj23vpjk]

This may be a little off-topic but this country has some weird laws. For example, if someone's gonna rape you and you ask them to at least use condoms (or offer them condoms, can't remember), it's not counted as rape anymore. There was an actual court case on that. :|

Link please.

[Gil]

Link please.

That's gonna be in the reply above yours.

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And I apologize for the misinformation, apparently the man finally got indicted in that case after the jury refused to indict him twice.

[Shink]

start carrying a knife, if it persists to the point of physical harrasment, take out the knife and hand him his "special friend" that dangles in between his legs

[Gil]

start carrying a knife, if it persists to the point of physical harrasment, take out the knife and hand him his "special friend" that dangles in between his legs

I guess that's the "Texan" way of doing it but un/fortunately I'm not from Texas.

[Shink]

I guess that's the "Texan" way of doing it but un/fortunately I'm not from Texas.

heh, i am, and i was actually being nice, the other way is put the knife in his leg if he tries anything at all after you "friend zone" him

[Ghaleon]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9gLN3QoN-q8


Really though just firmly tell him you are not interested, and to please stop making advances If he continues pursue other options legally.

[Kimbaaland]

"I'm straight and planning to remain straight" had me giggle a little since it isnt a choice

[forwards1ca]

It's probably NOT a good idea to work at a gay bar unless you're A: Gay. B: Bi C: Female (You'd never get hit on at least!)

Really dude? Are you that simple-minded? You do know that there are gay girls that go to gay bars, right? And, many gay bars don't hire gay men because of all the drama and shit that happens in that community. That being said, if you read what I said, it was just a job, a good friend of mine owned the place sp I got paid a shitton under the table, and I knew a lot fo people who went there. In fact, there were a ton of straight chicks who went there to avoid being hit on - never got so much ass as I did working there. I would say many unnkind things about you and your response, bu tI don't want to rack up more infractions, so I will leave it at this - IMO, you're response is inane and I really hope that you think before you speak from now on.