i'll only be get impatient if people are genuinely bad
like I queued as a tank for ahune and I happened to get the worst dps'ers ever
2 were lvl 89, but we got to the third phase of ahune and people weren't even doing 20k and ahune was still at 87%. The healer was oom so it was literally impossible to do so everyone but me died. At that dps rate even if the healer had no mana problems it would have taken about 15+ waves.
I just quit the group and said we had no dps, even if you're 89 doing 15k dps isn't ok. learn something about the game, read guides, don't get all uppity if people aren't prepared to carry you.
also if your pet dies blaming the tank is a sure way to get abused, people have a low tolerance for hunters because of their reputation.