Making Adult Couples Sleep Separately When Visiting Family

[Super Kami Dende]

Shouldn't be living together unless you're married anyway. If you're annoyed at having to sleep separately that's your problem.

1950's called, it wants to know how if the future is any different.

[jugzilla]

think this just boils down to America being weird about sex. They hate that shit.

This is very, very, very true, and you obviously have spent at lot of time of the US to realize this. Americans hate sex. Thank God for Obama. The Republicans would have outlawed this barbaric practice by now if it weren't for him and Elizabeth Warren.

[Knight Gil]

Their house their rules. If you don't like it get a hotel.

Private property is not an excuse for idiocy.

Let's take this case and switch it around: you and your gf/bf are going to be visited by her/his parents. When they arrive, you say: "Oh, you're going to have to sleep in separate rooms, just because my house, my rules". What do you think would happen? If your answer is anything less than "a shitstorm", you are wrong. Why would an equally adult, but unmarried, couple be treated otherwise?

[Themius]

2 my parents nope, but together for one year and married its OK.. i don't totally understand it but that's them and thus so be it.

It's just kind of closed minded, considering the state of divorce.

[Dave696]

Reason to live together before marriage:

-Make sure you are compatible living in the same house, seeing each other day in and day out, seeing if your other does things that royally pisses you off or not.

Personally living together before marriage can help determine if you can live with that person for the rest of your life.

OT: Been repeated numerous times, their house and their rules. My parents (actual parents and step parents) have no problem at all with my gf and I sleeping in the same bed or anything like that.

No. Those are excuses.

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1950's called, it wants to know how if the future is any different.

This is the liberal society you've grown up in. You've been told that you can do anything you want without any responsibilities or repercussions. Pathetic.

[Itisamuh]

Their house, their rules. My particularly conservative parents would never let me and a girlfriend sleep in the same bed under their roof unless we were married, because they disapprove of sex outside of marriage. You could argue that sleeping in the same bed may not necessarily mean sex, but it would certainly be an indication that it happens and is still considered inappropriate to more conservative folks. Regardless of my opinion on the matter, I would respect theirs when in their house.

[Deleted]

This is the liberal society you've grown up in. You've been told that you can do anything you want without any responsibilities or repercussions. Pathetic.

I guess I missed that memo 'cause nobody ever told me anything remotely resembling that, but maybe it was just you

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Who wants to listen to their daughter getting poundatated in the next room over? Maybe if they're married it's okay. And have four kids.

So it's okey to listen to your daughter getting pounded in the next room if she is married and has at least four kids? Is this a fixed number or will 2-3 kids do?

[theostrichsays]

So it's okey to listen to your daughter getting pounded in the next room if she is married and has at least four kids? Is this a fixed number or will 2-3 kids do?

Given I'm in Eastern Kentucky and head out to the Virginias every so often... it would probably depend. Is the father getting in on this or not... if no get a hotel room. (Note sarcasm please.)

[Gsara]

As a father of three daughters, I would never disrespect them by making arbitrary rules for them to to follow. I would instead trust the fact that they are not completely fucking stupid and could make decisions on their own based on knowing how their mother and I would react or feel about those decisions.

As far as bringing a BF to the house and staying the night? Not gonna happen because I dont like strangers in my house. If I have met and know them for a bit? Sure, wouldnt bother me at all.

[Dave696]

[QUOTE=Dannyl;31000460]I guess I missed that memo 'cause nobody ever told me anything remotely resembling that, but maybe it was just you

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I see. So you were just irresponsible and spoiled to begin with.

[Muis]

Lol, what an odd topic.

My parents would never do that and if my inlaws would, I'd probably go elsewhere.

Then again, this doesn't sound very plausible to me - either because we're pretty open minded in the family and I don't date very religious / conservative girls anyway.

[Anaeth]

If parents are making unmarried couples sleep separately, it's most likely for religious reasons. Of course your parents love you and want you to visit but really conservative religious parents don't want you to throw the fact that you are "sinning" in their face. If you are visiting someone who has certain religious beliefs that state unmarried couples shouldn't sleep together then you should respect those beliefs. Continuing to say that parents are asshats and dicks for having religious convictions that you don't agree with, kind of makes you the dick.

[cuafpr]

It's just kind of closed minded, considering the state of divorce.

oh you'll get no argument from on that part, but that doesn't change their beliefs on the topic and thus i'll respect it as i respect and love them.

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If parents are making unmarried couples sleep separately, it's most likely for religious reasons. Of course your parents love you and want you to visit but really conservative religious parents don't want you to throw the fact that you are "sinning" in their face. If you are visiting someone who has certain religious beliefs that state unmarried couples shouldn't sleep together then you should respect those beliefs. Continuing to say that parents are asshats and dicks for having religious convictions that you don't agree with, kind of makes you the dick.

very much agree with that last part.. if something as < sarcasm > life altering </ sarcasm > as not being able to sleep beside your significant other makes you storm out / cuss / yell / whatever you are the dick not a person that has different beliefs.

[Deleted]

Private property is not an excuse for idiocy.

Let's take this case and switch it around: you and your gf/bf are going to be visited by her/his parents. When they arrive, you say: "Oh, you're going to have to sleep in separate rooms, just because my house, my rules". What do you think would happen? If your answer is anything less than "a shitstorm", you are wrong. Why would an equally adult, but unmarried, couple be treated otherwise?

This pretty much summarizes my view to this too. Personally I would see such ordeal pretty disrespectful towards me. Why should I respect someone that doesn't respect me? If someone would do this to me they would be pretty sure I wouldn't visit too often. Thankfully people around here are not usually that archaic.

[Tholl]

you worried about me fucking on the bed

what you need to be worried about is your bathroom and kitchen counter

Best reply so far.

And to add to it I shall take a line from a once popular movie....

“Life will find a way.”
― Michael Crichton, Jurassic Park

[Deleted]

Its weird, but if you are staying at someone's house, you play by their rules or go elsewhere.

Its damm odd though, why are people so hung up about sex?

[KeirAdish]

Its weird, but if you are staying at someone's house, you play by their rules or go elsewhere.

Its damm odd though, why are people so hung up about sex?

Pretty much this.

I don't really see the point in making them sleep separately, Cause its not like they wont just end up sleeping together once they get back to their house anyway...
But ultimately like has been said, their house their rules.

I'm 22, I still live with my family for financial reasons, I've had two separate girlfriends live with me for short times, both slept in my bed with me.
Parents didn't have a problem with it...

[krunksmash]

easy some people are arrogant and ignorant and think a little piece of paper magically changes something.

[Incredibale]

So I really never have thought of this issue. I see it now and then on television and just saw this in a commercial where a mid 20s to 30 year old boyfriend was made to sleep downstairs. I did some looking around online and found forums of mothers who were very much for this.

I do not understand it one bit. In one case two people were 25 living together, but when they visited the mothers house they were to sleep separate.

If they ain't married they don't need to be sleeping together

[Deleted]

If they ain't married they don't need to be sleeping together

Because reasons?